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How can I convince my parents that my boyfriend isn't going to physically hurt me?

My boyfriend is 20 and I am 17. We have been together for 3 years but bout 2 years ago my parents stopped letting me see him because he broke another guys nose (long story don’t ask me to explain) and that convinced them that if he can break another guys nose he can turn around and break mine. The thing is he would never hit a girl he even got a guy deported for hitting a girl. He learned from his mistake and is even off parole now but despite going almost 2 years without incident they wont believe me. Sitting down and talking is out of the question because they refuse like out right say ** that.

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Answer #1

Well you are almost 18, maybe you could wait until then to see him?

Answer #2

From what I can see, there’s not much y’all can do. I made a mistake somewhat in the beginning of my relationship dealing with my parents and boyfriend as well. We learned that really only times heals. The parents won’t forget it but with time and showing them he hasn’t caused you (and preferably anybody else) anymore harm then eventually they can learn for chill out and maybe even “forgive”… Even the really stubborn parents usually learn sooner or later.

Answer #3

Maybe if you got him to write your parents a letter, or come over and talk to them it would let them see that he’s not a bad guy and they might change their mind. Remember, they aren’t being unfair or doing this to hurt you, it’s actually quite the opposite. They love you and want to keep you away from what they see as an out of control guy with anger management issues who beat up some defenseless innocent boy. If you let them see that that’s not the case, they might be a bit more open about who you can date. Either way, you are 18 soon anyway.

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