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Confused and Dissatisfied

Hey, I have a problem with my girlfriend and our reationship. I am 16 and I’ve had my girlfriend now for 4 months and it is going well but I find myself dissatisfied with the amount of time she spends talking to me. I’ve had past relationships where my girlfriend has sent me a text message everyday just asking what im up to or something. (to me that means a lot) but my current girlfriend very rarely texts me unless I text her and even then its about 2 hours late. Everytime! I have discussed it with her numerous time but she always says “I don’t live with my phone!” but that doesn’t stop her calling me from time to time does it? Regardless she doesnt. I feel it is because she has no time for me though she says she does.

Its confusing for me as I love her but I really can’t afford another fight with her but I can’t live with feeling cut off from her and having to ask her to call me which I can’t do because she is busy or something. A friend of mine says it seems she only talks to me when it suits her best which is true. Also a few weeks ago she broke up with me for 5 minutes because of me telling her all of this and told me I was being selfish. Maybe I am but I can’t live with a communicationless relationship.

Any kid of help will be greatly appreciated.

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Answer #1

Breaking up with someone for 5 minutes is really pointless, and it doesn’t sound like she cares about the relationship. If in a healthy and strong relationship, when one of you needs to talk about something, is concerned about anything at all…they’ll listen and work it out. That’s what needs to happen. If it’s important to you, then it should matter. And you’re not being selfish by any means. You don’t just need a phone to keep contact, but if you feel like you’re not talking or spending enough time with each other, and she won’t listen, then she’s not worth your time at all. It doesn’t seem like she sees you as worth hers. Your friend is right, she only talks to you when it’s good for her. Do you really want to be with someone like that? If you truly believe in the relationship, then go ahead and talk to her about it again. If she doesn’t listen, doesn’t care, or does that silly break up for 5 minutes thing again…then really hun, she’s not worth it.

Answer #2

It definitely sounds like you two want different things out of this relationship, and it might be time to face the possibility that the differences might be too great to surmount. It’s always tempting to try and shoehorn a lasting relationship out of every dating situation because frankly, single life blows most of the time. But if it comes at the cost of being distrustful, confused, hurt, rejected, and being generally miserable, it’s probably not worth it.

You’ve communicated your feelings, and she’s made it pretty clear that you don’t see eye to eye on this issue. There will be a another girl in very short order who will fulfill more of your communication needs.

Answer #3

your not being selfish and anyone who breaks up with someone for 5 minutes osunds stupid I really dont think shes taking the relationship seriously …if she was I would have said you two should communicate more, tell her how you feel ect theres lots of other ways to keep in contact with someone other than with the phone but if she only does it when it suits her best shes not really respecting anything you want as I said it doesnt sound like shes taking the relationship seriously so you might want to think about were being with her is going if its not making you happy, dont continue the relationship

Answer #4

She just isnt the right girl for you!

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