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I used to be really confident in my religion as a Christian but am begging to doubt it . do you think it is because of my Pagon Boyfriend .
I'm a christian and have been on another forum (through abc nightline) talking with atheists and listening to their arguments. Nothing they've said have convinced me that my belief is misplaced. I did have to do a lot of reading and researching, however, to become familiar with many things that I didn't know about before. Old religions that are hardly around anymore. Copycat ideas borrowed by christianity from other religious sects or beliefs. But none of it was convincing enough. For instance, they say there are other stories about gods making human pregnant. But in each of those stories, it was usually done by force or trickery. God asked permission from Mary before doing so. They mentioned that there were other crucified saviors but it turned out someone was reeaaally stretching some stories to make it seem like it was the same (Buddha, Krishna, Odin just to name a few.) Then there were supposed other virgin births but again, some of them were stretching (like when they tried to say Krishna's mother was a virgin but she had like 6 or 7 other children before Krishna. I said give me a break).
I believe in God for 2 reasons; 1) I look at nature, constellations, flowers, insects (what's the purpose of a butterfly if bees get the work done much more efficiently?) , animals and some of their characteristics (why is that the hummingbird is the only bird that can flap it's wings so fast, hover, fly backwards and feed on nectar?) as well as human characteristics. I supervise probation and have seen people go down the wrong path (stealing, using drugs) when they've come from loving families. Likewise, I've heard of people who came from difficult situations and should have fallen into the same trap but for some reason made the conscious efforts to not do so. This is what makes me believe in a soul. I believe we are drawn to either doing good or doing evil. 2) I had a personal experience, one I don't like to discuss much but I can say that it's not one of those "emotional" experiences like in a tent revival or something. More like a precognitive experience.
You are at a young age and have every right to ask questions. But don't just rely on other people providing the answer. Don't question for the wrong reason, either. Just b/c you have a pagan boyfriend doesn't mean you have to listen or believe in everything he does. People with different beliefs can get along just fine as long as you respect either other's beliefs and work something out so that you are not treading on them. Do your own soul search. Look at things around you. If you want to hear someone's advice, then do so but then think on it for a while and look at it from every angle to see if it holds true. Most important of all, whether you keep your beliefs or discard them, make sure you do so for the right reasons and not just b/c you want to "fit in". People being in your life are temporary, you and the way you think about things will be with you for the rest of your life.
Doubt is the door that the enemy sneaks thru...
Doubt is what brought about the fall, in the garden, to begin with.
Satan planted doubt, and Adam & Eve acted on it.
The results are written for our understanding.
The guidelines are clear.
Breach them, and pay the price.
Sin will take you farther than you want to go, and keep you longer than you want to stay.
God give precepts for a reason, that is our safety, and well being, as a child of his.
Just like all children, we are rebellious.
God forgives sin, but, he does not erase the consequences.
We bear the scars of our offenses.
You see the problem...
It is up to you to act on it.
We can pray for you, and give counsel, but, ultimately, it is up to you.
Perhaps it might be helpful to make a post, asking who... used to be a Christian... and who ... took an unbeliever for a boyfriend... and what has happened since...
If you don't get enough answers on here, go to and post the same question some where else.
Satan intices us, but, he never shows us the price we have to pay, when me miss the mark.
Father, I hope and pray that this young girl makes the right choices, her well being is at stake, as well as her future. Please send her the guidance that she needs, and lead her in the right path. We give you praise, for what you are willing to do. Amen.
(((hugs))) God be with you.
Silverwings, many of the major characters in the Bible doubted God at one time or another.
It's perfectly human to lose faith and to doubt and to become curious about things. It should be embraced, not chastised or feared.
Doubt can only lead to greater understanding, and it is a useful tool.
nightstalker, don't let people talk you out of doing down your own path. Doubt is not the "tool of the enemy" it is your own mind struggling to comprehend.
okay, so you're a christian and you are going out with someone who has pagan beliefs, well if you enjoy being a christian, then your boyfriend isn't going to help much with that. also don't let these guys change who You are.also, I will admit, that I doubted Christianity before, but I never abandoned it completely, and im sorry that I did doubt it.
The Word tells us to not be uniqually yoked for that specific reason, you are like who you hang around with. ( times out of 10 the unbeliever wins over the Christian. and then its a guilt thing and the Christian has a hard time forgiving themselves. You need to get fellowship and council soon.
I think doubt gives us the opportunity to explore the evidence and grow as individuals. It is a breath of fresh air for the stifled mind. If your faith is so weak that it fails when you meet someone different, then you need to seriously examine your beliefs and see what the problem is.
The Bible does tell us that we are effected by the type of people that we are around. you may want to think about what kind of groups you are hanging out w/. it also helps if you have daily quiet times to stay strong in your faith
I am begging to drift futher away and it is not bothering me like it should I feels as if I dont want to be a christian any more
but the problem is I dont realy know what I belive
Speak to your minister or knowledgeable Christian adult - pipet is right, God's word tells us not to be 'unequally yoked', have that explained to you...I wish you the best !!
You have to decide for yourself what you believe.
Study on your own and decide which worldview seems correct.
well your celeb. night stalker, if you consider yourself a christian there has to be something you believe in?
Good for you night stalker. Doubt is the first step toward recovery.
Maybe. how old are you and your boyfriend?
