what is child abuse
It all depends really. In my situation it was because my parents had absolutely no control over themselves. My mother is criminally insane and my father was an alcoholic.
It's parents like mine that actually ruin it for everyone else when it comes to disciplining a child or teen. I've seen my cousins get spanked over the knee all the time but I never saw my aunt pick up a belt and whip her son.
he just wasn't like that. She didn't believe in all the nonsense about girls should be spanked and boys get the belt like my parents did. Sure my cousin cried and was humiliated from the spanking because she wouldn't care who was in the room. Humiliation is actually ok to a certain extent because I can guarantee he wouldn't do what he did to earn it again. Plus , all my aunt did was spank him until he cried and maybe a little more but not much.
He wasn't screaming like me so that everyone in the neighborhood could hear. When my dad or mom used the belt on me it wasn't to hit my butt. They would use my whole body as the target including my face and they did not stop until they were tired. This is the definition of child abuse to the fullest extent.
Spanking should always be ok. But whipping with a belt, you really need to show some restraint because later in life what you did to that child will come back to haunt you for a life time.
That same child that was severely beaten with a belt has learned nothing but violence. There was no love between my parents and me. When they whipped me with the belt they would actually make fun of me for crying and say that I'm just putting on a show.
This got into my psyche and made me truly hate them with all of my being and I still resent them today. The beatings finally stopped though. It was all up to me. One day my dad started whipping me with the belt and hit me right above my left eye.
I just lost it at that point and I grabbed the belt and kicked him in the chest as hard as I could which made his body ricochet off of the wall behind him.(blackbelt in Taekwondo btw) From that moment on he never even dared to lay a hand or belt on me.
It would have been ok if they were just spankings. Sure they hurt and we all cry during them. What my mom and dad did to me though is the same thing that causes mental problems and they are really lucky to be alive today. I still have the metal problems though.
So yes, even at thirty four years of age I am still suffering with this. I am very antisocial which has pretty much destroyed anything that might have been good in my life. There was no one to turn to.
My parents were two faced and would have the nicest demeanor about them in public so everyone just thought they were good parents. I still kind of wonder why the Menendez brothers killed their parents. You just never know. If you beat a human being or animal enough it might just kill you to save itself if capable.
I think death would have been too good for them. What they really needed was a dose of their own medicine in front of the whole town. Maybe even a stoning or whip them with barbed wire for even thinking they had what it takes to be a parent.
verbally, meaning swearing at them or saying horrible things like, I wish you were dead, I never loved you, or about how they look sexually, raping them, doing other sexual things like oral, making the child touch the adault, ect physically, meaning hitting, pushing, biting, slapping, throwing them or an object at them ect anything that physically hurts the child and/or leaves bruieses or scars
When a child is verbally, sexually or physically mistreated by someone else.
exlactly whatk jazloves said