So my brother and I "pay" an apartment together but the apartment is on his name when he got the apartment he did not put me on the lease because I was not working at the time which at that time I did not have to pay bills because my mom was with us. She has left us for about a month now and I got a job asap and paid the bills for the past month, my brother has still found no job and is stalling he shows not true commitment into finding a job his excuse is part time is not his dream job.. so now I have to pay the coming bills for this month again all by myself it's not fair of his part. I know he is my brother and I'm suppose to have his back through all situations but I'm getting real sick of him, he is always disrespectful he treats me like crap and makes me feel uncomfortable when I have my days off with his girlfriend around getting se.xual (only one room apt) He makes me clean the house when I have my days off which I don't really mind because I love cleaning but shouldn't he be doing that? He does not give me the respect I deserve at least now that I am the one paying the bills what should I do? I feel hopeless :( His girlfriend tells me he is being that way because he has not found a job and he is stressing that he as the older brother can not provide and his pride is down I understand but I am stressing too. I have these new responsibilities my mom left me I am coping with that pain and now my brother is stressing me out.. what should I do?
Tell your brotherr if he's not looking for a job he can at least pull his weight around the house, maybe get off his ass and clean the house while you're at work and cook etc instead of being so lazy, and as for having sex with his gf in a one bedroom apt tell him to show some respect and go to her place if he's gonna do that, I'm assuming she has a place
Your brother is lazy and inconsiderate. Tell him he needs to find a job ASAP. Give him a set time frame in which you'd like him to find a job by, but in the meantime, start looking for your own place. You can't really kick him out since it's his house, so try looking around so you don't have to be treated that way by your own brother.
I think you have to get tough, he should be helping. Seeing as your name isn't on the lease, I take it you could just move out if you wanted? Why should you have to do everything whilst he has it cushy with you paying for everything and cleaning up after him. Don't let him take you for granted, it isn't fair on you.