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What should I do about my brother's constant mental abuse?

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Recently I asked a question about my brother's unemployed situation. For those who did not read it I will sum it up, My mom left me and my brother about a month ago or so, he and I did not have a job but I found one in retail i am (18) btw and I paid for the past rent and bills the apartment is on his name. He says he is looking for a job but I notice he is very laid back about it he does it when he wants and since I am paying the bills he does not stress out like the way I do. One thing about my brother is that he has always been disrespectful towards me all my life and no one has been able to change that not even my mom and my dad was never around but anyways now he treats me like crap when I am around his girlfriend sleeps at the apt and they start doing stuff and It makes me feel uncomfortable because its only one bedroom apartment, my days off he orders me to clean the house even though he does not do anything all day just goes to the gym. Today he picked me up from work and he was all dressed nicely with his girlfriend and they went out tonight to have fun which I do not mind but in my head i'm like I have to spend all my paychecks on bills when I can be saving for a car or spoil myself with something but I can not because you do not have a job and now you go out and have fun does not seem fair to me. He dropped me off and left I went to sleep like at 2 a.m and he got mad because I did not hear him knocking at 4 a.m. I really did not hear him he wakes me up starts yelling at my face and is kicking me out telling me that I need to leave the house and If "this" is too much for me I need to leave. and by this he means paying all the bills. I feel horrible right now How ungrateful can he be he is always making me feel bad I always have to bite my tongue when he says something to me, I always take it and I feel this pain building inside of me that says I can not let him treat me this way even if I have to go live in a shelter. He puts his pride so up that he doesn't even realize that if I leave tomorrow He will NOT have money to pay rent and bills in one week and he has no job! but he keeps treating me like crap and he gets really violent he told me a couple hrs ago that If I shut the bedroom door he was going to hit me and I was in my bed crying angry and could not do anything about it then a minute later he slams the door. That behavior irritates me throughout the years I have to deal with him calling me ugly all my life and fat . Recently I've lost 35 pounds and he does not seem slightly happy for me he gets mad when I get a little confident about it, I'm tired of him being like this towards me, tomorrow I have plans to contact my mom to see if I can move in with her. We do not have a good relationship but it is better than my brother's I know since I am human I would feel a little guilty about leaving but it's not fair he doesn't stop and thinking before he starts insulting me..I need your advice.