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I was dating this guy, and we seemed to click pretty well. We met while I was walking around the mall awhile ago. Swapped numbers and emails. Etc etc. Well I introduced him to my aunt and her bf james. And the first thing James said was, "He looks like hes 30 and just wants to tap that a**!" Talk about embarrassing?! :/ He told me he was 26. I believed him. But I then continued to tell him to show me his ID. So he did, and was obvious that he was nervous, and turns out he was born in 1976.... I was born 1993. My MOM was born 1970. I blew off on him, and got very upset and angry at him lying to me. I told him before age is just a number, if we click, we click. But I think this is something way more serious now :/ What do I do? He keeps apologizing over and over, and says he will never lie again... But I dont know if I should pursue in this relationship, or call it off.
I really don't understand the trepidation when two adults are attracted to one another. I have dated someone that much older, who looked much younger and I was very attracted to. She was one of if not the most beautiful person I have ever been around... inside and out, and I only feel enriched by the time shared with her. When I imagine having let the age gap prevent me from getting to know her, and benefit from the warmth of such a person, It makes these comments solely considering the mathematics of it all seem ludicrous and laughable. All these constraints we place on ourselves based on how we feel our actions will be perceived by those around us... only serve to confine us. You should ask yourself how you feel around him, regardless of his age. Age is after all, just a number. The deterioration of telomeres, physically age us all differently and maturity is a subjective trait. Would you prefer someone closer in age who you don't connect with as well and who will, in ten years, look and feel ten years older than the number on his driver's license says he is supposed to be?
Honestly though, and this is not meant as a slight in the least... the way you have worded the question in regards to perception, unless he is very immature for his age... he is probably too mature for you. If you cannot see past his age, I can't see how it will work.
I think it depends whether you can still trust him, if you can't then there is no point in pursuing a relationship with him but if you can then maybe you can forgive him even though what he did was inexcusable. If you do decide to give him another chance, tell him you want to take it slow and if he likes you for you and realizes what he did was wrong- then he will go as slow as you want. If he doesn't want to take it slow then it's his loss.
No way, I do not fancy men old enough to be my father. I thought he was 26. That kind of age difference is fine with me. I agree, it is creepy. Who knows if he has daughters? Or a wife, or exwife? Ugh... I thought about it a lot, and no way am i going to continue to talk to this man.
If he's lying about his age, what else could he be lying about? At that age he could have kids and a wife you don't know about. And think about why he isn't looking at women his own age! That's creepy AF if he didn't tell you his age.
So you fancy men old enough to be your Father and he likes young girls that could be of his own Daughters age....Sounds very creepy,disturbing and sick.Has he asked you to call him Daddy yet?
If it was me I would think so, but when it comes down to it- it all depends on whether or not you care what his age is or if your comfortable dating someone that old.
You are 19 according to your age on this site and he is 36. That's a 17 years difference! A little bit too much don't you think?
But wouldn't you think the age difference is too much of a big gap?
Yes. Agreed. Thanks.
