Best friend hates me?

My friends samy and marcela and I are all best friends. we’ve known each other for about a year and we were really close until samy and andres became “lovers” but not boyfriend and girlfriend. me and andres were good friends, and since I hung out a lot with samy, I also hung out with andres too. for some reason, samy got the idea that me and andres were “flirting”. I never did. then marcela told samy that I said that when andres and I flirt, it’s different from everyone else flirting. I mean, how gay is that? I would never say anything like that. whatever. and then, I told her that I never said that but they didn’t believe me. I knew that andres was two faced ass and that he would just hurt samy. after a month, marcela and I became friends again, but it hurts to know that marcela and samy are closer and have inside jokes, etc. samy still hates me and thinks that I steal all of her shit on myspace. I mean I never do that! I try talking to her about the whole situation, but she doesn’t want to talk to me. I want to be friends again but she doesn’t act like she wants to. marcela is stuck in the middle, but she doesn’t do anything to help. and I hate hearing all that shit that samy says about me from marcela. I just want to be friends again.. Please help?

Answer #1

It’s hard to be friends with someone that doesn’t want to be friends with you :-( I guess I’d give it one more try with Samy. Insist on talking to her alone and tell her how you feel. Start by telling her how you miss being close to her and that you really want to patch this friendship up. Make sure that she understands that despite what she thinks you really do care about her and don’t want to hurt her. If she doesn’t react to that then I recommend just giving up on her. You can’t spend your life running after someone how doesn’t want to make an effort to be friends with you. Also, you should ask Marcela not to tell you about the mean things Samy says, it’s juts throwing oil into the fire and it’s hurtful. Tell her that you don’t want to know but that you cherish her friendship. Don’t worry about Marecela and Samy’s relationship, after all they are allowed to be friends and just because you have problems with Samy it doens’t mean you can’t be friends with Marcela. You just have to learn to separate the two. As for Andres, just stay away form him until the whole thing has blown over or the issue has been resolved!

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