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I am 16 years and I have graduated cause I'm home schooled so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 years and we want to have a baby should I wait or should I have the baby? we have been together since I was 11 and we have been waiting since I was 13 to have the baby but we aren't legal age cause he is 19 and I am only 16 he has a full time job at his dads workshop and I have a part time job at a nursery and I love babies, I simply adore them! and me and my boyfriend love each other very much!! do you think we should have a baby? I am sooo confused what should I do?
How can people say, if thats what you really want, then do it? Shes still a kid. How will a 16 yr old be able to raise a baby on her own? Just because you have been with your boyfriend since you were practically a baby doesnt mean your ready to be parents!
I have a part time job at a nursery and I love babies>> That isnt nearly the same as having one of your own. You need a dependable flow of income and money to raise a child in the way every child deserves to be raised. Whos going to babysit while your both working your tails off to support you & the child?
I hope you are smarter than you are desperate. There are so many years of fun waiting for you, if you'll just try to calm your hormones and seek out L I F E! Live it! Talk to any smart person, and they will advise you to wait as long as possible, at least until you are married and about 23, before you start to plan a pregnancy. They will also hope you want to help the world instead of causing more problems. Desperate young girls do stupid things. One out of every 150 boys born now has Autism. Are you prepared to handle a special needs child all by yourself, at the age of 16?
You can go online to find out how much a baby will cost, but it's the cost to your own childhood that is the largest.
I think that if it's what you want you should do it. However, weigh out the pros and cons. Do you want to go to school? Do you want to be a full time mom? Do you want to pursue a career? Does your boyfriend want to pursue a career other than the job he has? Do you guys have a home? Are you financially stable? Can you SUPPORT the baby? Are you EMOTIONALLY ready to have a baby?
You're brain is still growing and developing at sixteen and even at nineteen too! You have to ask yourself these important decisions.
If you bring a baby into this world are you going to be able to give it EVERYTHING it needs and take care of it to you highest standard? If you're going to have a baby take everything out of the equation except you, your boyfriend, and the baby.
You + Boyfriend + HOME + Jobs + Education(college) + Transportation + Financial stability + emotional preparedness + deep understanding of your goals and passions in life = whether or not you're ready to become a FULL TIME MOM,
well technicly if you have a parents permission to get legally married then you can and also have a baby
