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My boyfriend wants to have a baby but im not ready and I dont wanna hurt his feelings when I tell him no How do I tell him I don want a baby???
Father of two kids here.
Unless he's a millionaire, he's an idiot and insecure. Why would he want a baby, why now, why,,, the answer--- doesn't matter because you don't want one.
You told him you don't want one by now I'm sure, but guess what, he's not listening to you. That's what us guys call "Not caring what you think" and it should not be tolerated by you.
You can do better than this guy, just imagine how controlling he's going to be 10 year from now if you had a kid. He's trying to control you don't let him. That's assuming if he's still around.
The point is, the guys don't usually stick around when you get fat, bloated, irritable, hungry, moody, scared. Now add a baby, do you really think he's going to stick around?
If you went to him and told him you wanted a baby. He would careless about hurting your feelings if he wasnt ready. He would straight out say heck no. So if he truley loves and cares about you and you love and care about him. Tell him NO WAY maybe when we are more secure and everything we can try but right now is not a good time for either of us. If he gets mad so what he will get over it if he truley loves you and if he leaves and doesnt get over it then that tells you who he truley is. And that right there tells you if yall did have a kid now what he would do when it came and he got mad about something. Your not out to please anyone but yourself. So PLEASE LIVE FOR YOURSELF NOT ANYONE ELSE.
haha I heard that one before trust me he can say I love you I wanna be with you im never gunna heart you come on dont you love me ??? DONT listen have a brain you dont wanna end up on your asss wid a baby when he finds someone else trust me im not being harsh im 19 and have about 4 friends who their boyfriends of several YEARS said the same thing and then once they were preg the guys were with diff girls and partyin trust me. my fiance wanted to have a kid when we first met and I told him I wasent ready and because he does love me he understood. im telling you its the best thing
Tell him you're only 17 and having a baby right now would be extremely irresponsible. Not to mention that babies are SO expensive, more expensive then you would ever imagine, and there's no way at your age that you have a good job. Minimum wage just isn't cutting it now days (hence why it goes up almost every july) and point blank there's no way you could do it and give the baby what it should have. I'm glad to hear that you're being logical in the sense that you know you're not ready yet.
Tell him your not ready.
Give reasons like responsibilty, not enough money to give it the best, maybe your younger then you want to be when you have a kid?, uhm .. and you would be out of work for a little and lose money.
You could also tell him that you want your baby to be planned a little more ahead of time that way you can have money saved up, a bigger house if needed, stuff like that. (:
Just give reasoning that could possibly convince him out of it for a while.
Hun I'm not ready for a kid yet. can you wait?... thats it... he's probably gonna try and convince you but if he cares he'll wait
