What can I do to avoid getting mad at my boyfriend when he upsets me?

Tell yourself he doesn’t mean it. He’s your boyfriend and he doesn’t want to hurt you..i have this type of thing but with my friend and I just tell myself that she doesn’t mean it and she’ll come to me later if she wants to discuss it. Whatever you do, just don’t blow it up into a big fight, it can only get worse that way.

1. Make it into a little private joke each time: “Thank you, Professor Boyfriend :) “ But only if you can do it light-heartedly, not sarcastically.

2. Remember in that very moment several things that you love about him.

3. Think about why that particular quality pushes your buttons. Does it remind you of someone else who acted that way with you a lot, before your bf? Do you have a reflex response to it of feeling stupid? If so, that has a deeper source in your earlier experiences that your bf is not responsible for. If you understand what your reaction can tell you about you, you won’t feel as angry at him.

P.S. you can do any one, or all of those, and here’s another: 4) If you think he has a need to feel like he’s the smartest, or to show off, talk to him about that need, which he may recognize as a problem for him, and tell him calmly how it makes you (and probably others) feel, instead of directing those feelings against him.

Next time you find yourself getting angry at him, take a minute to just breathe. Is it worth getting so worked up over? If the answer is no, remove yourself from the situation before you blow up. That way, you don’t say or do something that you’ll regret. Also, I think you need to sit down and have a serious talk with your boyfriend, explain yourself and let him him know how you’re feeling. Let him know specifically what bothers you, and also, make it a little easier for him… say maybe what you would like to happen instead of what’s already happening.

Close your eyes…and count to ten. 1 think of the ocean. 2 think of flying over the ocean. 3 breathe in. 4 breathe out. and once you get to 9 remember you’re awesome. 10 Refreshed.

i find my self in the same situation and i have sat down with my boyfriend and he have talked about how we both feel and all that but i still find my self getting all worked up and stressed at the litting things he does :(

Well…. depends on what he does that irritates you. Pick and choose what makes you mad. If you feel like you can’t handle something, let him know he’s upsetting you. If he refuses to do anything about it. Then get away from him (I’m talking about physically not breaking up with him) and cool down. Maybe there is something else about him that bugs you and you don’t know it. Maybe since you’ve been with him so long you are starting to find things out about him that annoy you…… Finally, crack a joke….. whenever you make something funny it takes away from the tension. Good luck.

Oh this helps a lot! I tried it today, thankss bunches !

My boyfriend is in all AP classes, and he is really smart, but i’m no where near as smart as him, and sometimes when we get report cards I’ll be happy to get an 80 and he complains about a 97 which is stupid and he gets all mad about it, but also he says that an 80 isnt that high and he makes me feel so stupid but he says he isnt trying to make me feel that way but i dont know..

Same here!! What do you do when you get upset with him? See my bf is a smart a– sometimes and a know it all and its so frustrating and hard not to get mad about it..ive talked to him but he doesn’t seem to understand anything.

Yeah, I used to be that arrogant, brainy, show-off kid, mostly because I thought it was all I had going for me. If he is not trying to make you feel dumb, what does he think he is doing when he tells you your test score of 80 isn’t that high? At the very least, he is being very insensitive to how his behavior affects you.

Not so smart, huh? ;)

Good advise from chanelglit. Plus, you can do this. When ever you start to get angry at him go for a good walk and spot things around you. Close and far. This will dissimulate you by not centering yourself on your feeling. Pay attention to the things around you and afar, not what is bother you.

The reason you get mad is he is restimulating you on what you don’t like. You do the same thing to him. That is what causes unrest between two people. By going for a good walk you get back to being extraverted about things around you, not centering your attention on the negative feelings you have. Have him do the same thing.

The old saying, “like things attract like things”. Is true, the Law of Attraction. The more you center your feelings on the negative about you and your bf you will attract that negative feeling back to you and have that fight or upset.

you have to think about every time you get angry at him he’ll then get angry at you and then vaguely your both drift away from eachother so just try and think everytime your going to get angry how close you are to losing your boyfriend if you get angry at him constantly

if he upsets u all the while then u dnt have to be with him….?

Take a glass of water and take exercise. Thus you will use your excess energy and cool down.

ino that i can be annoying nd i do bad things in my relationship but i get stressed really easy ns i get enxiety atacks nd all tht bnd i am going to get them sorted nd i know he loves me and he cares but he winds me up so much sometimes i end up being stress nd having ago and moaning at him and most of the time i don’t know what i should do……