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I have been married for 12 years, have two children from a previous marriage aged 21 and 18 years of age and am very very confused. My marriage is good, we still get along so well, make love at least twice a week, but unfortunately it seems that 5 min is all it goes for. I am so frustrated. My husband realizes this but no matter what we try I am the one left wanting at the end. Even with heaps of foreplay the end result is the same. I am 38 years of age my husband 48. Recently I have joined a social group within our town so that I can get out once a week and have a laugh and catch up with friends..We both work 5 days a week, so this is my time and I really enjoy it. But recently I have been having feelings for a guy within this group. He is young 26 and a totally different personality to my husband. He makes me laugh and also the attention I get from him really does make me feel good. Before I go any further I need to point out that during my 12 year marriage my husband and I have tried 3somes, swinging etc to give our love life a buzz, but I have never done anything without his knowledge, so I now have this 26 year old who has all but said come to bed with me and 80 percent of me is yelling yes but 20 percent is saying no. I just want to feel alive again even for a moment. I get text messages from him that send me insane with want. Has it gone to far already to stop? and really I don't know if I want it to.
Dear soveryconfused101, Sounds like you are suffering from restless housewife syndrome. It seem your biggest complaint is your sex life. But if that all it was it could be an easy fix right. The fix would be that you would know how to have an orgasm (your responsibility by the way) and you could teach him what you like. Simple...yes...But perhaps it's more than that and you are just plain bored again. I say again because you've tried to 3 somes and swinging...this type of behaviour proves to be detrimental to relationships and as you found out does not cure what is truly the problem. The fact that you are drawn to a young co-workers says that you are looking for outside sources to fulfill what your missing inside. We cannot rely on others for this again (your responsibility) to find happiness with who you are. As our children get older we question what are role in life is now and we look for validation we once got from our children who need us. I hope you see the pattern as you are getting interested in a 26 year old. This is the time in your life when counselling is a great way to discover yourself again and to put your life in perspective. You are not alone with the way you feel but we don't always act on impulse especially during this time of your life. Evaluate what you have to loose. There are many women's groups that are available that deal with this very topic. Sue...good luck
Well, you could just tell you husband that you want to have sex with this guy. If he agrees then go for it, and even if he doesn't listen to you voice, do you want to have sex with this guy? What are the consequences? So, before you do something you regret or have doubts think about the possible consequences. Are they good, or bad?
