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I have been having an "affair or relationship" with a married guy with kids, I'm in a relationship myself. I need to stop doing it. The thing is that he says he loves me and I love him... I know it's very destructive behavior. We are almost about to stop and I think we are but how do I deal with my feelings and missing him? Oh, and we work together, 20 ft from each other and take the same trains to work...what do I do?
I feel the pain that you are going through. I have no advise because I need help myself. When it first started I was in control of my emotions buut it has been almost a year and I am beginning to fall. I have got to get a grip because I met him through my relatives that he is very close to and I know that if I cut it off we will still be around each other. We hang in the same circle. I really enjoy his company and I am well aware thathe will always be with his wife. But my thing is I want the emotional attachment to go away. I just want him to be someone for me to kick it with since he a family friend.This is not the first married man that I have been involved with but this one is different for some reason. - needhelp2
Hi: I know where you are and how you feel. Sooner or later sombody or somebodies are going to get hurt. You have a chance to do the right thing and send him home to mamma and you get on with your life. Sure you will hurt and miss him for even more reasons than lacking sex. But you know it is the right thing to do. Do it soon before it becomes public knowledge? Good Luck Gino
If you are serious about ending things you need to cut complete contact and that may mean leaving your job becos as long as he is around and the feelings and temptation is there you will always still see each other and wont be able to stop. So maybe you should consider leaving your job.
first you should think about the way your relaship is going with the other person and how he would feel if he found and how you will feel if it happen to you.
The answer isn't how do you stop loving a married man. The question is when are you going to start loving yourself.
