Is it wrong to hate my younger brother?

Hopefully this isn’t uploaded as a freaking status! (-_-) Anyways! I pretty much hate my brothers guts. I know when people at its only because he is young an when your older you’ll be best friends, all that bullsht.. But I know as soon as I am able to leave home, I don’t want anything to do with him.. He’s a waste of space and by me, an unwanted family member. I know it’s mean, but he deserves nothing that he gets. My mum says he is copying me from when I was his age, but I know for a deffinate that two years ago, I was not a fat, greedy, spoilt, big headed, selfish, smelly, unhygienic and an absolute fucktard. He is horrible to me. I do everything he asks me too trying to make him a better person. He complains to my mum and sister literally every day satin I have hit him or been mean to him & I know for a fact that within the past, what, 4 - 5 years I haven’t laid a finger on him. We use to scrap a lot when we were younger like most children did. Me and my sister also used to fight but we are almost like best friends… But my brother, I hate. I know I hate him. If he was hit by a car (& Survived of course) I wouldn’t give a rotten pigs sh*t.. If he died, that’s different because he is my lil’ bro.. But still.. I hate him. Is this wrong? & Don’t anyone please say “Give him some time he will grow out of it.” or anything like that because I have given him 5 years to change. He’s 14 he should be more mature than he is right now, especially with the people who surround him. What do you think? Am I in the wrong?

Answer #1

Ummm see my brother use to hit me when we were younger and he use to make me cry… But as we grew up that all changed he has been nice to me since n I could never hate a family member… No matter if we never talk or get alone were still related by blood. but I can understand what you mean you can choose to never see him again once your old enough to move out. But people do change… You honestly never know what you have till it’s gone n maybe one day he will want to fix your relationship. I think hates a strong word… Maybe you just dislike your brother? And I actually think most kids his age are immature and take more time to grow up…

Answer #2

You sound like you’re in the same boat as me. I dislike my sister too, but you have to understand that he’s all you have when your parents die. It’s better to get along with him. What if you’re without a house when you’re 30 or something, and all he remembers is that you hated him. That isn’t going to help your situation. I mean, it’s your choice to hate him, but at least pretend that you like him. So, no, it isn’t, but it isn’t a good idea.

Answer #3

It sucks that your little brother is so horrible to you, but do you ever just try talking with him? A simple conversation with your brother could change your perception of him and cause him to react differently with you. I’m sure he senses the fact that you don’t like him, which could be why he continually acts this way. It won’t be easy, but I honestly think you should try to interact with him in a positive way sometime. It seems from your question that you only see the worst in him, but there’s got to be some good things, too. The least you can do is try to form a better relationship. And whenever he says something totally out of line, whether to you or about you, just walk away and ignore him because he’s probably just trying to get a reaction out of you.

Answer #4

I feel the exact same about my sisters. I mean sometimes were okay, we’ll watch funny youtube videos together & stupid stuff but then they’ll start some immature arguement. It’s just the fact that they are so dirty, spoiled, bratty, unappreciative, rude & stupid that I can’t stand them. Everything they do pisses me off, even when it’s nothing & I’m in a good mood. It’s just them. MAybe we will grow out of it, maybe not.

Answer #5

That’s awful, I feel for you. Luckily my younger brother and I are close. Of course my dad would never have let him hit me or mistreat me.

Answer #6

Well I always have my sister to turn too, who is more successful than him in every way possible. Also, my brother has been thieving all our stuff for years. It started off when I was younger and he used to take my chocolates or something (he stil does), but now it’s my money, my dads money, my mums, my sisters.. At one point, he stole £200 of my mum.. That was when he was about 11.. She never got that back!? My dad had been collecting different types of coins since he was about 7, so I over 40 years and his collection added up too about a grand.. One day it just went missing and that was that! So we all think he will be in prison by the time he’s 19 or so!

Answer #7

Oh I have spoken to him, my whole family has.. My auntie, Uncle parents.. He won’t change. He’s bad at school aswell. We have phone calls from the head teacher literally every week.. “If you son does change his attitude by the end of Friday he’s out of this school!” .. I used to see positive things in him, we all did! But you know, things like tat are slowly fading.. I have spend my whole teenage life talking to him, asking whys he’s like this, how he needs to change.. But does he listen? No. We’re a pretty poor family, and we’ve put so much money into just him.. Paying for football clubs, tennis lessons, going on school trips, all things like that which in the end do cost a lot. Me & my sister never got the chances to do it all. Our parents don’t have the money. But when they do now, my brother gets all these amazing things to do and signs up, parents pay £250 and he quits the next week.. He knows what he is doing.. He knows he is bringing the whole family into a hell hole.. He happy he is doing it.. I can tell you right now, by the end of 2015 my parents will have kicked him out and he will be in prison.

Answer #8

You are lucky you have that good relationship with him. My dad works away weeks and often weekends, so there wasn’t ever anyone able to break up our fights, my mum ended up slapping us at one point to stop us.. But make sure you keep that good relationship with him! :)

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