How is it legal for my friends husband to do this?

She should print out everything, depending on the state laws for adultery, etc, she may be able to get more than half…

….and, he’s confused. 99% of the time, the woman finishes up with the house, the car, etc, not the guy.

Given your description though, she HAS to get a lawyer, or she won’t get what she deserves.

Technically, he doesn’t have any rights to any possessions unless he himself purchased it under his name. Anything under a joint name will be agreed upon in court. It’s not the husband’s nor wife’s say on what belongs to who unless it’s under their name.

As for the guy talking to his old college girl, then he should have told his wife. Keeping that a secret makes me suspicious that there was more to it than just “talking”.

ok hold on shes filing for divorce but on what grounds exactly… a fake fb account and because he talks to other girls?

if the house is in his name then she wont have to pay nothing but if its in both their names then juring a divorce its normally gentleman for the man to leave the house to the ex wife and kids and help with the payments…

if your mate doesnt work id surgest she cuts hers losses now and lets him have the house cus she cant afford it..

I was just going to say the exact same thing…he cheated…he refused to go to counseling now he thinks he is going to get the house too…lol

She deff needs a lawyer pronto & has to find out her rights & document everything tape covo’s & even try a mini hidden cam to prove if god forbid he threatens her!(i am not sure how admissible that is in court or can be used as evidence) when it comes down to proof & it’s his word over her’s at least she has something to use as proof on her behalf & might be taken into consideration.

When I got divorced do to my ex-husband cheating on me with a woman he met on an online game, I just wanted him out of my apt…and since we were renting & only my name was on there so he had to leave…no court, he refused counseling as well so I just told him “get your clothes & your computer & get out” he had no choice but to do so.

I am so sorry for her & what she is going through & you are a wonderful friend to be there for her & support her on this issue…I know exactly how she feels right now & at least she has you…my parents were all i had &they were abroad so I basically went through it all alone…it aint no picnic is all I can say about the matter!

Obviously your friend has a great career and that is why her husband wants her to pay the mortgage. Ask your friend, if she hasn’t done so, to create her own bank account and make sure there are not join accounts as you never know what her husband and his ‘college girlfriend’ are capable of.

Hmmm not really. If the wife is the one earning the most money and she is the one who has pampered her husband throughout their marriage, the husband can demand that he should maintain the same lifestyle or similar and the judge may buy into that…..There was a case in Oz, where a lady who had a awesome career and built her fortune and wealth married a waiter. She pampered the husband with gifts, cars and holidays and when she got bored with him and divorced him. The female judge took pity on the ex husband, saying it was unfair for him to go back to waiting tables and order the ex wife to pay him $4500 a week until he the day he takes his last breath…..LOLLLL talk about a male gold digger. I was pretty impressed with the outcome. . :)

LOL….I take it he’s not a lawyer…..He’s bluffing, of course (or he’s immensely ignorant)….the house will most likely have to be sold, and the proceeds will be divided between them….as will everything else. If there are no children involved, the chances of him getting alimony is somewhere between nil and none….

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There is no such thing as a “gentleman” (or a “lady” for that matter), when it comes to divorce….

true that…(in other words…absolutely right!)

independence…..where is the persons solidarity? what good is a person that can not experience? im not even being loose wit my observation. what is life…LIFE, without experience? there is a moment in time…..you each feel…that moment stays with you it makes you….talk with eachother about…love….and other things…but, you ………..take personal responsibility for yourself honey, …….are you a slave? is there a physical threat of death if your friends husband feels love? tell me you dont have a feekling of love inside your fantasies of team edward or jacab….you have the idea

Believe me she has no problem with that. Its been a loveless marriage for a while… my question about everything was can he do that to her legally… make her pay him 500 dollars a month and he gets to keep the house or whatever. Nothing to do about the love thing.

hmmm think it all depends on the matrimonoial propert sytem that governs their marraige atm… if they have a joint estate or seperate estates.. so it all utimately boils down to that..

though the maintanence part is a good mitigating factor for the husbands part…

Okay, a lil more info on that. Yes she is the one now with the best job… but it was actually a sudden twist. Most of the marriage she was just working at Kohls as a manager and going to school to be a teacher. He was a teacher at a high school as well. He just got fired as she finished and started actually working at a high school. She is a teacher now and he is just a bag boy or something like that at a local grocery store. So you see it wasn’t the whole marriage just since March! Oh and she still works at kohls on the weekends.

i know 2 couples going through a divorce right now and their all still the best of friends and have done what was in the best intrest of everyone involved. so ya know not all are messy.

My aunt was in a situation like this. She filed for divorce and becuase of the “cheating” she was allowed to keep the house and he has to pay her a third of the mortgage.