How can I bring a baby into a home with a man I hate?

As much as I think locoluna’s answer is true it seems a little harsh. You do have options, not great ones, but ones that can make it better. You have a choice to move out with other family members (not forever but just enough to get away from your mom’s boyfriend, you deserve a break). You could ask, as hard as it may be, for your mom to delay her wedding until you have worked it out with your furture stepfather or at the very least until your baby is born. Try to think of places you can stay to calm down, maybe stay at a friends until things blow over. Everything will turn out ok in the end. I hope this helps. Tell me when the baby is born (if its a boy or girl) I’m sure you and the child will get through this. :)

Bottom line, you are pregnant have no where to go, you have to stay there with your baby and him, if your mum is thinking about marrying this guy since they have been together 10 years you cannot do anything about it. The best thing now is to try and talk to him, he is going to be your step father and its time you realise and accept that. Try talking to him, telling him why he annoys you and if its possible to try and spend some time together to get to know each other becos you cannot live with someone and ignore them. Its only going to cause an uncomfortable living situation. You need to get close to him now becos with a baby coming its going to be hard focussing on anything else.

Dear think_pink_314, If you are still in school seek out the counsellor there…they can help. You can also go to Social Services. Explain that you are pregnant and that your home is not a safe place to raise a child. They will set you up in a place to get you started. You need to be out of that home and into some place less stressful. You have a baby to think about now and that should be all the reason you need to change what is happening. Sue…good luck

I can’t move in with family as the only family we have is my cousin, auntie gran and grandad and they all live together so thats already a cramped situation. I’m on the homeless list which is the fastest way to get a flat with no money but even with the shortages of homes in perth that will take 2 to 3 years. Mum won’t delay the wedding because in July that will be their 10 year anniversary and she wants it to be that day and things are just getting worse. I tried talking to him but the problem is the only time he wants to talk is when he’s wasted and thats no good to me cause i want him to remember it and mean it! Thanks anyways guys!

I’m sorry for your situation. I’m also sorry if my advice sounds very harsh. But I believe in children first and that is from where my advice stems.

Your mom is a codependent. She will not change. You’re stepdad (or mom’s boyfriend, whatever) is an alcoholic who will not change. You will not change them. You are 17, in an abusive, alcoholic household, and pregnant with no father for this child. Now is not the time to make the big concern in life to cure some A-holes alcoholism. You have bigger fish to fry.

Please begin talking to an agency about placing your child up for adoption. Wait! Just hear me out….You can find that child good parents and give this baby a life that you simply, will probably screw up. Give your baby a mother and a father who will care and provide for it away from substance abuse and selfishness. It will take a great act of courage and selflessness from you to do this, but it’s the only way that you can do the right thing.

Then, recover from your pregnancy and birth, get a job and some flatmates and get your own place and start your life out. Be safe, single, and get away from this horrible situation you are in. Take control of your life by making healthy decisions. And you know what else? Have fun, too! Disocver who you are, make your own money and get yourself around on your own. You made a stupid mistake, don’t make a dumber one by placing this tiny baby into your incapable hands with a mother who doesn’t give a care about you or herself, and an abusive man who will only become more abusive. You’ve got nowhere to go, no money, no livlihood. But you can change that and give this baby a future. At least go and talk to someone about adoption as an option. Just go and talk. See what they say, see how you feel about it then. You owe this baby that much–you owe this baby the chance to at least see what it’s life can be like with proper parents and education and support. You’d probably be a great mum someday. But now is not the time or place to do it. You have hundreds of thousands of eggs that can make babies. You can make another one later down the road.

I hope you heard this.

well the first thing you can do is pray , pray that God Spirit of peace rule in your house and find you a Bible start reading and take a breather from the house go outside and get you some air..The baby feels all yor stress..are you still in school and if so finish h.s and plan to stay on campus for college, there are programs out there that will help you w/the baby..please pray and ask God to help you have peace when he is around and make plans to leave..your mom loves you very much and she will live her life as she please now that you arwe older and w/child remember that Jesus loves you very much..i will talk w/ you if you need a shouulder to cry on..