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I was the one who wrote about her husband always hiding things and lying. We have been through marriage counseling and the truth is you can't have a relationship without trust. No I don't trust him and it breaks my heart because I do love him so much and I don't want to admit that the only way for me to be truly happy is to leave. I want to be happy with him! So, as far as I can see I have a couple of choices and none of them seem at all tempting. I can stay and be miserable and always wondering or I can leave... cry.....and cry.....and cry.... knowing that sooner or later I will feel better and go on. I don't think I am strong enough to make this choice. What can I do for me?
But understand, after you leave and cry and cry and cry...you WILL move past it, its going to hurt, leaving someone always does, but look at the positive side, one day when you have been thru your healing and greiving over this and you start to move on and realise you no longer have to worry about the next lie that comes out of his mouth, you will feel free and happy, only having to worry about yourself, spending some time alone to get to know yourself all over and to eventually when the time is right meet someone fantastic that will treat you right and you'll wonder why the hell you put up with him for so long and missed out of this great new life!!! you know it will get better if you leave, but if you stay you know you will be miserbale forever is that any life worth living?
you should give him the opertunity too show you how much that he needs you and how he feels like he is nothing with out you by his side, he is also affraid that he could loose something so good and wonderful because nothing in his life before you has been so impotant other than his son who he knows you love and taht loves you your husband also knows that soon things must change he also has good intentions but is just affraid that you will think less of him if he came to you and showed you a weak side he was raised knowing that a man must be a man and not show emmotion its a hard mold for him too break but he is working on it so if you want out and thats it then tell him but think of these things first
Hmmm. You love him, so stay with him. You want to be happy with him. Let him know how you're feeling, tell him that you're to the point where you're ready to leave just so you can find happiness. Maybe he'll realize he need's to build trust in you, and need's to change his ways The way you choose to live your life is it. Make it count. Don't let him break your heart 24/7 because you can't trust him, tell him about it. Let him know exactly what you're feeling. If he can't chnge then he don't want to, and that's when you leave. Good Luck.
