Is it wrong to tell my boyfriend that he can't get a violent job?

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I think it’s okay to express to him how you feel about him entering into a job like that, but I don’t think that you should tell him ‘NO’. If being in law enforcement is his dream, as his girlfriend you should try to be supportive and help him become the person he aspires to be.

It may not be the job role that you’d pick for him, but this is something that HE needs to be able to decide. He needs to go in directions that will make him happy. You don’t want him resenting you for not letting him be all that he can be.

That said, I do agree with Aubrey. You guys are still young, so his career path may change. I know mine sure did from when I was 14/15. Try not to sweat it too much. Just enjoy each other right now.

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Of course it’s wrong. Sure you care about him, but sorry sweetheart- it’s his life.

I’m gonna have to say that you shouldn’t do it. It’s something he wants to do. He’s not getting a violent job do strictly be violent… is he? Look, I know you care about him and all but from what I’ve learned is never give up opportunities or dreams for a girlfriend or boyfriend (wife/husband is different). If y’all don’t make it (heaven forbid), then he’s gonna wish he had done it. Don’t hold him back. If it’s really what he wants then support him. It’s who he is, so you must love that part of him too. Support him in it…. he’ll love and appreciate you more if you did. You may not like it, but at least he’s going for a job and one that excites him.

Well you cant force him too. you can tell him it would make you upset if he did though… but you guys are young as soon as you break up hes going to go back to wanting to join the military and be on the swat team. ( sorry its true)

haha thanks but were not planing on breaking up. and i already told him that IF we ever break up that he can do whatever he wants. but thanks for your opinion…

yeah its true. in the end i told him that he can do whatever he pleases, that he shouldnt let me stop him :/

thank you so much. ill take your advise and try to suport him more. and youre right, he shouldnt let me hold him back, at least hes trying to do something with his life. thank you again :D

My bf wants to join the military to, n I mean I don’t like the idea but I’m not going to stop him. I think it’s kinda wrong that’s his dream, you can’t tell him no or make him not do it. Just support what ever he wants to do.

yeah i understand :) thanks

You’re welcome :)

Let him follow his dream, if that is what he wants to do, you should give him the freedom to. Its normal for you to worry because you love him, but you cat protect him forever. Dont worry not everyone just gets into SWAT, and if he does cut it. Then that must mean he is tough enough to look out for himself.

:) thank you