I don't know what to do. I haven't talked to my dad in 7 months. The last time I talked to him was the day after I went out to visit. He used to be a great dad and he would call me everyday, but now he has like forgotten about me and I don't know what to do. I cry myself to sleep everynight and hope he will call the next day. Whenever I talk to him he says that he calls and leaves messages, but he never really does. He always makes it my fault, when he is the one that should be calling me, am I right? Is it my fault he doesn't talk to me? He just had twins, and it seems like he is replacing me with them. I've been going through a lot and he doesn't even know any of it! What should I do, besides call him? Is there anything I can do.. or should I just forget about him? We are trying to get him to give up his parental rights and let my stepdad adopt me. My mom has called, emialed, texted and everything and he has never got back.. Does he hate me?? :/
Sorry it's long, please read it though, I really need help.
Just give him his space and he'll realize the mistake he made but hopefully not too late.
The twins are almost 3 and he never even watches them. When I went down there all he did was sit on the couch and made me watch them. He barely even talked to me!What do you do when your dad stops talking to you?
Just give him his space and hopefully he'll realize the mistake he made; hopefully not too late.How to tell my Mom I want to live with my Dad?
My dad stopped calling me for a few weeks but when he finally did, I made it seem like it was his fault. I said "why do you want me to call you if everytime I do, you say you are too busy?" He never blamed me for not calling him again.
Although your dad has twins, he SHOULD have time for ATLEAST a phone call once every week.
I think you should call him this once & if he continues to not call you back...
seriously, SCREW him!
Sometimes being a father doesn't turn out the way we expect. Living, and the problems that come with living, sometimes distract us from our duties and responsibilities of being a father.
I don't think that your father is purposefully avoiding you. I think he is just caught in a trap and doesn't realize the mistake he is making by not staying in touch with you.
It doesn't have anything to do with his love for you. Quite possibly the way he was raised (the environment in which he grew up) didn't lend itself to him learning what being a proper father was all about.
As time continues, he may very well realize what he has missed and where he has failed but he won't know how to remedy the problem.
If you want a relationship with him, YOU are going to have to take the initiative and work at building the relationship. Maybe you could start by writing him a long letter telling him how much you mis his emotional support and how much you would like him to be a part of your life.
It is up to you to forgive his past inadequacies and teach him how to be a part of your life.
Good luck, be positive.What do I talk about with my boyfriend's parents?
You might be putting to much focus to the sitation, which might possibly be making it worst. I he just had twins, he must be going crazy having to deal with not only to kids, but maybe a naggng wife and having to deal with a nagging daughter as well. Sorry to say but you have to stop being so selfish and maybe offer to help him with the new babies who are your brothers, yo would have much more fun with them instead of fighting them. Remember...if you can't beat'em, join them!Thong...and dad,?
I have had issues with my dad in the past as a teenager. I also have a little sister that would never call and say it is his job as the parent.
My thing is that two wrongs don't make a right. I know that you have been making the effort and applaud that. Seven weeks should not have passed by, let alone seven months. It seems that you don't live close to your dad. If you do go see him and tell him how you feel. Write him and tell him how you feel. Call his new wife and or girlfriend. Tell someone, that can get to him, the problem. Don't yell but don't hold back your feelings. Let him know how much it hurts you that you haven't talked to him. Hopefully, you will get it together and get to know the other side of your family.
You might be putting to much focus to the sitation, which might possibly be making it worst. I he just had twins, he must be going crazy having to deal with not only to kids, but maybe a naggng wife and having to deal with a nagging daughter as well. Sorry to say but you have to stop being so selfish and maybe offer to help him with the new babies who are your brothers, yo would have much more fun with them instead of fighting them. Remember...if you can't beat'em, join them!How do I make my mom stop talking so much?
Sounds like your dad doesn't care anymore and, he wants to favor the twins over you. I know that doesn't sound right but, I think that he's showing favoritism.
I would maybe forget about him since he doesn't want anything to do with you which is sad. I can tell you love him and all that but, it seems like he is distancing himself from you so he can spoil his new children. I'm sorry I have to say this but, your dad is a disgrace.
I have lots of sympathy and I'll keep you in my prayers.
Hope I could help you out a little.
First off ..no...your Dad doesn't hate you. He may be going through a lot right now with his new family.
If you have his email address...maybe you could tell him how the situation is making you feel...sometimes it's a start to write it out rather then a call.
Be honest about your feelings with him and never give up on loving him...after all you really don't know how he is feeling either. He may not know how to handle the situation and is avoiding it?
I hope that the communication lines open up between you and your Dad
I don't think you should just forget about him... after all he is your dad. if he has twins, then I bet his hands are just a little full right now, which I no excuse for just forgetting you (which I doubt he has) just give him a little more time to get his priorities strait again.
Hope this helps =]
You dad is not hating you at all. He is just probably going through a rough time. You should try to talk to him and ask him whats wrong.
Dig a little deeper. When my son went off to college he had a rough first quarter. I called him and told him it was OK, I had a terrible first quarter too, and to hang in there. My wife, a very possessive mother, got wind of this convo and directly told me not to call or e-mail my son without her consent. She said "All you did was distress him!"
Since then the few e-mails I have sent to him have been "proofread" by my wife. Phone convos (even less) are fully witnessed and regulated by my wife.
It's a lousy way to have a relationship with your son but, with various threats held over my head by my wife, I really have no other choice. I guess what I am saying is there may be a deeper reason for your father's actions.