Why shouldnt I be upset?

Well, relax… first of all. To me, if cutting yourself seems like a solution to anything, then you both have some serious issues. Personally I would have tied my friend down and drug them to the mental health clinic if they were doing that… Such as it is, these days it seems one can do whatever they like and everyone just nods and says its okay or looks the other way.

I can’t knock weed, cause I enjoy smoking it myself, though its more like a bi-yearly thing these days, but no drug should be used as a solution to a problem. Don’t corner the marijuana thing, as weed smokers tend to get defensive over it. Try approaching it as “You have issues that you don’t know how to deal with, so you’re using weed to forget about them, and there are healthier way to deal.” Then ask her if she’d like to go for a jog. Let her light up first, cause she probably just wants to and don’t argue about it. In fact, ask her if she’d like to light up and then go hang out with you. Let her do it, and then step out and jog through a park or something.

When she’s done, she’ll realize she’s more relaxed and her thoughts are more focused. Eventually she’ll see that its never good to run from your problems, but running can actually help you focus your mind and think of ways to deal with them, if not simply help your mind start to produce those healthy endorphins that make those big, negative feelings go away.

If she’s not down, try yoga, karate, gymnastics, soccer, volley ball… or, shit, let’s just be honest… sometimes it helps to just buy a wooden baseball bat and go wail on a big tree… whatever works, just don’t let her run away anymore. Teach her to fight for her happiness.