Why is liking holidays and wanting to celebrating an childish act?

Is it a bad thing that im 23 years old and enjoy getting small gifts on holidays such as Mothers day, Christmas and my birthday?? My boyfriend (daughters father) has told me that I dont deserve anything on holidays because I am no longer a child. I got, “I will get our daughter things on the holidays and not you, your an adult. Go buy them yourself.” On mothers day, I had to remind him to even say it to me and I got nothing because he “doesnt believe in holidays” when mothers day is probably the most important to me. I would have been ok with a kiss in the morning and a “Happy Mothers Day”. Im pretty simple.

I get him things on almost every holiday because thats how I was brought up. Does that make me a child to enjoy holidays?? Am I any less of an adult to enjoy them?? Am I a child to expect something simple and small from my boyfriend on holidays I enjoy like, Mothers day, my Birthday and Christmas?

Answer #1

No not at all, it sounds like you have a cheap boyfriend who will find any reason not to have to buy you a gift. Mother’s day is a really important day it’s the day you get to appreciate your mother for everything she has done for you in your life. I don’t agree with your boyfriend at the least, and my boyfriend at the beginning of our relationship wasn’t into getting gifts, but I have totally changed his mind on that by showing him how small and unexpensive the gifts can be, but that they actually still mean a lot because it’s the thought that counts, now he just spoils me! I know everyone in the world feels differently about these things, but once you get into a relationship that is long term you learn to compromise and learn how to make your partner happy regardless of what it is.

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