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Ok, dont just say "because you are". I want constructive arguments.
I wear rather nice clothes, brands such as levi, republik, maddox, jag, and such. I have a casual style, im 180cm tal (btw, im 14) im slim (60kg), and I know im not weak.
I have dark brown hair, and eyes, slightly tanned skin, and, from description, apparently seem rather reasonable. What I want to know is why people always call me ugly, or horrid ect. When they meet me, or even those who know me well.
Its undermining my self-esteem, because (in my eyes) I look healthier, fitter, and seem to have more pride in my movements than most my friends, all of whom seem to fit the "good lookers" category rather well.
I know its a badly worded question and probably requires more information or a photo, and im gonna try to attach one... If it doesnt go thru, check my profile.
I just looked at a pic of you on your page and honestly I don't know what the fuss is. You are not ugly at all. in fact you are very attractive. are you nervous around people? or girls mainly? often if you are nervous/fidgety around people it can make them uncomfortable and they will judge you based on your first time meeting each other in which you were nervous.
I think you look older than 14, but that may just be the angle of the camera or something- maybe your friends are jealous of you? I know that sounds cliche, but the reason it sounds cliche is because it happens a lot haha.
when they call you names, are they looking for a fight? or just 'joking' but you can tell they arent. both of these things can indicate that they are trying to make themselves feel better.
don't let what they say bring you down, stand up for yourself. not in such a typical way, but say for example your friend(s) were making fun of you, you could joke and say 'well at least I dont look like you haha' or something. it brings them down a notch without all the trouble of getting into a fight because it was just a joke.
iris, I think you are attractive based on your description and photo. However, some people think other people are ugly just because they look different. This could probably be one reason. Do you look and act different from most people in your place? If yes, that could be why..
Or, it could be that you MIGHT have some annoying habits/qualities. Im not saying you do but it would probably help if you could reflect and discern if you have qualities that people generally dont like - for instance, I personally abhor too cocky/arrogant/egoistic people and no matter how pretty/hot/handsome they are I wont be attracted to them.
Or some people could just be jealous of you and that's their way of putting you down. And because you are doubting yourself, they deem its working.
Aesthetically pleasing looks or not, what are you doing, either verbally or non verbally, to let people assume it is ok for them to tell you exactly what they think of your appearance, let alone call you ugly or horrid, the moment they meet you? Secondly, why are you hanging out with people you have known for a long time that I assume to be what you would call your friends, when they obviously are very shallow and horrid people themselves to judge you so unfairly?
Bottom line, make new friends and have the balls to tell people that don't even know you that you will not tolerate them judging/talking to you that way because apparently for you, just ignoring them and what they think of you isn't enough.
I think that people with dark eyes/hair and skin are HOT. that combination reminds me of people that live in the sun and stuff = good times. if people diss you they are the weird/insecure ones. think about it, when you've teased or mocked someone don't you think it's because you like that part of them? well I don't know, but that's what I find.
thats the thing, I dont react very much. verbal and physiological jibes annoy me, irritate me, but I dont react with more than ignoring them. so, phrannie, although your answer is right, its slightly errelevant (I should have included this is the texts main body)
youve described everything except your manners/attitude all thay type of stuff...
from some of your past questions you have come across as slightly annoying so maybe thats why people are saying your unattractive due to your annoying personality
They know it gets to ya...that is the ONLY reason they say it. I looked at your pic, too...
Your best defense is water off a duck's back...ignore it and the 'fun' will be gone for them...they'll move on to someone else.
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You seem like a pretty good looking guy...however, thats not what girls lookfor. they look at personality.
