Why do I like another girl?

Hey im a guy and heres my dilema, I dont ‘officially’ have a girlfriend but im seeing a girl (sara) that I like and I know that we both want to be close (boyfirend and girlfriend) because we trust eachother enough to say it. But she attends a different school than me so I hardly see her.

Now me and my friends are hanging out with some new girls and I like one of the girls! At first I thought I can just ignore the feeling or something because I was seeing sara but she seems to like me too. And yesterday at a party I couldnt take my eyes off her (the new girl is katy), I hope you readers know the feeling when your just crazy about someone, that everything they do just seems great and attractive and you wish they knew how incredible you think they are! Well I was feeling that towards her. I couldnt even help myself, I was flirting with her! And I knew I shouldnt, one of her friends even told me to kiss her, but I didnt, I’ve never kissed a girl yet and I wasnt going to turn my back on sara like this, katy doesnt know about sara and vice versa. I’m a nice guy lol and I’ve always considered cheating or stuff like it really bad saying “ill never do such a thing” but in a way I am arnt I? Even if sara isnt my girlfreind im betraying her trust and it hurts to like katy but it feels great at the same time but then it feels so wrong!!

Also, I’ve never had a girlfriend yet at 17 so I dont have any experiences to help me with this. Any help or advice on what I should do would be much appreciated :)

Answer #1

Your young and your technically single. You don’t want to keep dating Sara and look back and say “I wish I had dated Katy” or “What if Katy and I got together”…At least tell Sara you don’t want to get into a relationship right now and that she is free to see other people if that is what she wishes to do because of your distance, and not being able to see each other a lot. Even though it’s not long distance not seeing your girlfriend/boyfriend can make it harder on a relationship no matter who you are because your 17 this is the time in your life where you experiment with kissing and learning how to love and growing up, you don’t want to look back one day and regret not dating around before getting serious with someone. I like that you said you think cheating is bad because it is and it can really tear a person apart emotionally, but don’t lie to Sara either you don’t want her to hear around that you started dating someone new the next day, tell her you met a girl through your friends and that you may like her and you might want to see where it goes and that you didn’t want her to think you were going behind her back and make it clear that you have not done anything with Katy at all (kissing etc.) that way she doesn’t feel betrayed and make sure she knows it’s nothing she did and that you don’t go out looking for girls it just kinda happened and you can’t help that you are attracted to her…she may be upset either way. If you keep trying to see where it goes with both of them an one happens to find out then you may end up without either. Also you have been seeing Sara and you just met Katy…Katy seems perfect because you are infatuated with her and you haven’t had time to get to know her for her and I am not saying she isn’t nice and everything, but you know Sara at this point…don’t make your decision by comparing the two girls that never works and remember the grass is not always greener on the other side. Good luck hope this helped…I remember being 17!!

Answer #2

ou like another girl because men are hunters, we’re have a bad tendency to be with a girl while you’re already thinking what it will be like to be with another. is all normal. but you have to appretiate that special person you have with you and if you’re not with any of them, then you go on and enjoy it.

Answer #3

wow thanks a lot its people like you guys that make this site helpful. some good advice :)

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