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Why do I act so jealous?

ever since me and my boyfriend got together I started actin jealous but I never ever told him what to do like he does to me.. everytime we walk down the street an I see a pretty girl I go crazy, we fight everyday over the smallest things but everyday we sort it out.. maybe love aint strong enough to hold us but what is? I love him an I cnt b away from him but I really need 2 change my ways before its too late but I say I will then 5 mins later I say an do the same thing, can anyone help me out please

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Answer #1

The source of jealousy comes down to insecurity within the relationship, which is ultimately fear. This insecurity may not come from any action of the other partner but rather from experiences in past relationships and imagined fears about potential pain in this relationship. Insecurities can arise from relationships that you have witnessed other than your own, such as parents, other family members, friends, neighbors, or other role models.

In partnership there is no room for jealousy. Whether you sense the jealousy is your own or your partner’s, it has to be addressed in order for the relationship to grow and flourish. Jealousy can wreck a relationship.

When jealousy issues come up in your relationship, try taking some time to determine the real issue. You may have to get clear about your feelings by yourself first, and then communicate with your partner. Journaling may help if you are feeling stuck. Just remember that what’s at the bottom of the problem may not be apparent immediately.

With any issue in relationship, you have to patiently and lovingly talk through it.

Answer #2

you are just very protective because of the fact that you care about him so much. Just make him aware of what made him attracted to you in the first place and it will take his mind off of anything else. For example, if he was really attracted to your personality then you need to show him that, stop wasting your time worrying about other girls and silly stuff because then he wont be able to see the real you. The one in which he feel in love with. If you were put into his shoes right now, all hes really seeing is fighting all the time. It can be very unattractive and a potential turnoff. Just try your best to not notice the silly stuff by putting all your attention on being yourself and on giving him a good time so that he enjoys looking forward to hanging out with you and so that he can fully appreciate that you are his. I know it can be hard, but just try it and you might notice a big difference in the way he treats you back =]

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