Why can't I make any guy friends?

I have been upset for several weeks due to the fact that my guy friend doesn’t want to be friends anymore. I don’t know exactly why, I just know it happens way to many times. Like its impossible for guys to just be friends because they either want something more or they just get tired and toss me a side. I don’t get it and the current guy friend that recently broke the friendship hurt me the most. Though I feel that deep down he didn’t really care about being friends. I have always felt that I was only needed when ever his girlfriend broke up with him or w e (ex: he asks me to go to the movies but then never calls back cause he went back to his girlfriend). I don’t know I can’t really tell if its just me being all depressed over it and that was my worst fear of him. But I was always by his side even if he didn’t have the guts to say no. During our time in school I would walk with him to his class. He would you know do what friends do talk and hug. Then on the last week I asked him if he was glad that he can finally get rid of me and he said “why would I get rid of you?were hanging out.” I wanted to believe it was true but their were doubts.

Two weeks have passed so I decide to text him and it was basically a roller coaster. He first says “I don’t know maybe later we can hang out,” cause I asked if we were still going too. Then second time come around and he starts joking around. He asks me if I wanted to cuddle with him because he wanted to cuddle. I asked him “why would you want to cuddle with someone you don’t have feelings towards?” He tells me “didn’t say I didn’t lol.” Third time comes around and I asked him “do you really care about me?” and he says “no idea.” Then he texts me “no more friends.” I asked him “why?” He says “you get mad to much.” I got all upset and just basically said he was making a mistake and we would have a great time like going muddin or the movies (lol). He then pops in a question and asks “what would you do if you saw me in the shower alone?” I ask him “why would I be there in the first place?” He says “we can’t be friends.”

A little over a week past and I finally got the courage to call him up again and he answered. I asked him why we weren’t friends and he just says “I don’t know shanna you freak out to much like you are now. I’m to tired, I’ll call you back later.” (never does as expected lol) So its been a little over a week since that happened and here I am still upset over it. Can anybody just please explain what happened? Is there anything I can change for us to be friends again? If now what are ways to calm myself down and move on? Please help

Answer #1

Well, guys are like that. I cant say all but I’ll say some. It seem like he havent grow up. I may sound harsh, sorry about that. But im just saying the fact. His behaviours are too childish. Have you ever heard an adult saying “ I dont friend you”?

Well, to be frank, I did say “ I dont friend you” when I was a kid. But now, I wont say such things.

Maybe he’s hanging out with his friends and they were just playing? Im glad to hear that he turn to you when he’s not in good mood. Cause it just means that you’re a great person. You’re kind and caring. And since he dont treat you good after he went back to his girlfriend, and you still stay beside him, this really means that you’re great.

And since you’re great, you deserves better. You should not be sad if he stay away from you. Perhaps you should feel sad for him as he lost a great friend.

Im sure you can find guyfriends. Nevermind. Tell yourself that you are independent. You can survive alone.

Cheer up! =))

Answer #2

most girls dont have a lot of guy friends and some girls do. im friends with older guys mostly. its probably the age. or maybe you have to be more like happy and talkative to people.

Answer #3

I am the same way. I completely lost a guy friend last year, because we were both way too emotional and sensitive. He is cold, and I took offense easily; when I told him he was being rude he took offense easily as well! Now I am making way more guy friends because I calmed down and tried let things go with the flow. If the friendship isn’t going to work out it isn’t going to work. It’s not the end of the world. Friendships come and go. He doesn’t sound like much of a friend anyway. In fact, he seemed like a self absorbed, selfish, rude, immature, thoughtless, and manipulative brat! He clearly didn’t appreciate you, so forget him! There are plenty of people out there to be friends with. You won’t click with all of them, and friendships will fall out–that’s the way it works. But I am sure you will find new and great people to befriend. Don’t think you NEED a certain amount of guyfriends or girlfriends. Just be friends with people you are happy to be around. People you don’t need to stress that they will stop liking you just because you made a mistake or said something wrong or had a bad hair day or were PMSing. Best of Luck :)

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