Why am I like this all of a sudden?

If he’s been messing about with your friend, then that’s gonna hurt. The fact that neither of them told you, or felt the need to tell you shows that they don’t appear to care how you might feel at the end of it. You need to talk to him, and the friend, about how what they’re doing is making you feel. If they care for you, they’ll stop because it’s hurting you. If they don’t stop, even if you’ve made it very clear that you don’t like it, then maybe it’s time to end the friendships.

Friends with benefits is always very hard, someone WILL end up getting hurt. If your messing around with people the other doesn’t really know then that’s easier, but when it’s closer to home (with close friends) then it hurts.

okay just to make this clear im am NOT sleeping with this guy and neither is thr othr girl im a lil young 2 sleep around

Well, you gave him the okay. He may have told you that you were all he needed, but then just changed his mind. Considering the fact that you said it was alright, you really can’t get upset. It was still just a friends with benefits thing too. You guys didn’t make it an official relationship.

Well he made you trust him, by saying what he did… So you almost feel hurt like he lied to you by saying your the only one he needs.

Nobody really said you were sleeping with him but obviously you are doing something if you are “friends with benefits” that doesn’t entail JUST making out, you couldn’t make me believe that if you tried. Either way it’s disgusting and there is NO WAY you should agree to him doing whatever but have to restrain yourself…that’s stupid and it’s your own fault. So if you want to mess around with scum go ahead and obviously your friend isn’t your true friend.

No, he’s a pig, BUT that’s why you don’t ever want to be friends with benefits (unless you truly can handle the consequences or not fall in love). There are a lot of disadvantages, if they don’t want to date obviously they want to be free to date and sleep around with whoever whenever, but they tell you not to mess with anyone else because they don’t want to share you, and you don’t and assume they aren’t going to either, until you hear otherwise or catch an STD. I wouldn’t continue sleeping with this guy he sounds like bad news and it sounds like he says whatever he needs to, to get into girls pants. What a jerk off…find yourself a nice sweet boyfriend you can do whatever you want with whenever you want, SAFELY!

I think with the whole ‘friends with benefits’ deal, you’re just setting yourself up to get hurt. If he’s messing around with other girls (not to mention, one of your friends), he isn’t serious about having a relationship with you. You probably should consider moving on to someone more mature that’s looking for a serious relationship.. and not just a physical, but a mental connection as well. I know how much it hurts, but you will find someone better.. :)