Im 27 years old and have always had bad luck with relationships and right now things arent going any better. I have just started having an affair with a man that is 22 years my senior. He is my mechanic. (yea, I know it sounds bad) Anyway.. I have known him for years and we have always had a connection but recently my truck needed some work to pass inspection so I was around a lot more than usual. Well when he told me how much it was going to cost, I joked and said "can I work it off" which was something we had often joked about. Well he was doing the work in stages so when I went to pick it up and make an appointment for the next stage we were standing by the door and he pulled me close to him and kissed me. I was definatly caught off guard but it was nice, really nice. We must have stayed there kissing for half an hr or so. (He owns the shop and is the only one there) So now its been about a month and we are still seeing each other. I know it is wrong because he is married and has kids around my age, but there is something about him that keeps me comming back for more. We havent even slept together yet, just fooled around but he makes me feel like I am the prettiest woman around. Why am I so drawn to him?
Please offer some insight.
torn in nc
Your not having "bad luck" with relationships, you are just not "getting" into relationships. I think a lot of that is because your messing with the wrong men.You are just a "ego" booster to this married guy, by showing him that he still has it.Any you are something new to him, but don't plan him to leave his wife for you, because that won't happen. Sadly, your not going anywhere in your life, by messing with him. I think you are drawn to him, because you can't completely have him, or because he's taken. But, you are the one who really knows the answer to that, so ask yourself.
Honestly, however I don't think you should have made that comment about paying off the labor on your car in another way. That was really suggestive, and I think it made you look "easy" to him. I'm not trying to be negative, but if you want to do yourself and your life any good, then you'll end the affair! Good Luck!
It sounds very sad. I would love to see you in a relationship with someone who is available. Sometimes, these types of 'relationships' are exciting, but you know that it is not going to lead to anything.
Feel good about yourself and make a date with a guy who is available and who is not just all about physical. And NO, it is not a good quality to go cheating on your wife and kids like that. RUN!