Who here is afraid of break ups?

Yes, I’m always scared of breaking up.

My boyfriend and I have been going strong for 3 months but I still have a fear of losing him even though he treats me like a princess, proves he loves me, etc. but past relationships have made me this way. I see nothing wrong with getting attached quickly, I mean it’s one of those things you really have no control over.

I’ve never dealt with break-ups very well, usually a lot of crying, headaches, etc. and I never want to talk to anyone about it because it makes me feel worse. I get rid of as much evidence as I can that he was ever in my life, block contacts with him, etc. It’s really hard to move on from some people, it depends how long you were dating and why you broke up.

Just because you’re afraid of the person you’re with doesn’t mean you have trust issues, it’s one of those things that will get better with time. You aren’t going to trust someone 100% right away especially if you have a bad past with relationships. My boyfriend knows I don’t trust him 100%, he actually asked me last night and I said “no” and he’s cool with that, he said he’ll be patient with me and he understands why I feel that way. My past 2 boyfriends both cheated on me so it scares me, he knows that so he’s really understanding about my trust issues.

Most partners are cool with waiting for trust, earning it. If they’re in a rush to get your trust chances are there is a negative reason why they’re like that. Someone should never push you to trust them, it needs to grow over time. Never put your faith in a relationship 100% right away because you’re putting yourself in a position to be let down, just wait it out.