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Gentleman? Wouldn't you agree being a nice guy sucks? Listening to girls b*tch and moan about the latest asshole that just broke their heart and listening to them whine about how they just want a decent guy who will treat them right. while you just sit there like hello!!! I'm right here, give me a chance! And when you finally tell them how you feel they reject it all together and say, "I just want to be freinds." And then they never speak to you again, life sucks being nice doesn't it?
This is an interesting phenomenon. Girls really enjoy that there are some guys who they can talk to in a really platonic, free way, like chatting with a girlfriend. So many times I''ve observed this, the nice guy who talks and listens, and who hopes, or even thinks there's a chance for him with a girl who opens up emotionally to him to such a level, but is in fact using him as a friend and not a potential boyfriend.
I've seen it with my son. He was talking to a girl on MSN for weeks...She had been to our house a couple of times with groups of friends. He talked to me about it and said, "Mom, I think she likes me and I've been sort of not picking up the clues." I asked him what the clues were. He told me she looks for him every evening and they chat till the early hours. I told him, sure, go for it. Invite her out instead of just sitting at your pc every night. Well, he finally told her he was interested and she was, well, horrified. Things were just not the same after that and he felt terrible about misreading the situation. And yes, many of their conversations were about a guy she was dating off and on, who treated her badly. I don't get it.
I guess, girls need friends who are guys... but are they really unintentionally using them?
And I guess, guys want to show girls that they can be empathic and understanding because they think that way there's a chance for the girl to develop a romantic interest in them?
And of course I'm speaking in general terms, and I know there are many people who do not fit into this category. It just seems to happen a lot.
honestly I dont like bad guys I like nice guys and right now im doing what you are talking about im talking to this guy about my boyfriend who keeps pissing me off and making me cry and honestly I would date the guy that I'm talking to in a heart beat... I prefer nice guys there is less chance of heartache... I dont see why a lot of girls go for bad guys but I dont like them I'm dating a guy that can be an as occasionally not all the time he has his good moments.. Besides good guys do get the girl eventually because most girls wont put up with an as forever so stay a good guy dont turn into a bad guy because then your girlfriend will go talk to other guys about how you broke your heart and in the end you'll lose
Girls love pricks. I can see why I've had a few of the preppy girls go out with me back in highschool because I had that tough loner I dont give a s**t look.
I guess its an out-law thing I dont know really some girls like bad-boys that treat them like complete garbage. But I can say that a lot of times they will like it where they are a prick and they are also sensitive to there feelings.
Its hard on me because they like it for a little while then they just get annoyed of it because thats all they expect of me but when I try to be true to my feelings with them I think its harder for them to actually believe me. Lol.
oh bad boys are always wanted!!! dont guys like bad girls too? theres something women see in jerks...we belive we can be the ones to change him forever...like a soul makeover. its pathetic that we completely pass by the ones that are actually honest and them complain that the guy I met coming out of juvy a week ago told me to fu*k off...or that the guy my two best frinds dated before me cheated!!! whats wrong with women??? fortunaetly there are a few of us that arent this dumb. my advice act mean theyll want to spend every second of the day with you...just dont treat them bad ok.
Well I use to be like that some girls take time to realize that the person that will treat them right was right beside them all along I use to go out with this dude who was such an a** I mean really he cheated on me 5 times and I always forgave him and I use to run to my friend whos now my boyfriend and complain to him and than at one point I kinda relized that I havent been treating him right and stuff so I gave him a chance && im pretty sure a girl that is right for you will come around somtime Just wait and stay strong but bestest luck to you =]
I understand where your comming from... but not all girls are pricks... some of us actually choose our guys real well... that is if we're looking for love...and not attention. but yea... I dunno why... I guess some girls are just blinded by lust, we seem to view love through our eyes, rather than our hearts. but hey... don't stress about it, keep on being the gentleman that you are... and sooner or later a sweet girl will see you for who you are ♥ wish you best of luck!!
hell ya prince, you said it man. thats sht pisses me off so bad, I don't even like to think about it. except I usually stay friends with em, and thats a lot worse, trust me. Seriously man, fck bein a nice guy, you get a lot better results when your a d*ck, took me 20 years to figure that out
I like nice guys ... ... people always come to me when they got something to complain about ... it can get realy annoying sometimes ...I dont like to complain becuase no one realy likes to listen to it ... if you ever need some just to talk to or whatever you can funmail me :}
I think it has to do with the mystery behind the arrogance. like... why does this jerk think he's so great? maybe he is... I should find out.
Haha I agree too. The only time I talk about my heart getting broken is when the guy asks. Girls love pricks I've come to notice as well.
lol, Im not a guy but I'm going to have to agree with you... all my friends who date guys seem to fall for the jerks... no idea why...
I like the nice guys. I don't go for the jerks!
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