Who do I chose, ex or new guy?

I don’t know who to chose..I’ll give you some background info..

Ex- We dated for 11 months, pretty good relationship for the most part except for the fact that he controlled me a lot, but thats just how he was. & most of my friends don’t like him, but I love him. I lost my virginity to him, he was my first kiss…my first love…first everything. When we broke up two months ago it was horrible I thought I would never be happy again…

New guy- Then I started talking to this new guy…I don’t know if he likes me..I mean he talks like he likes me..but he could talk to every girl like that. So I’m not exactly sure if he’s really into me or he just wants to get with me. But I like him a lot..but I was thinking maybe I jsut like the idea of him? Just because I miss my ex

So my ex startd talking to me again, we hang out somtimes we talk a lot he says he misses me and the girls he’s been with that I’m all he thinks about and its not the same with them.

(we both lost it to each other, I was his first love too)

So anyway thats my dilema..also he’s like if we get back together I don’t want you drinking with linnea(my best friend, because everytime I drink with her I either hookup with her or one of her brothers) and he’s like and you have to find new people to sit with at lunch(because he doesnt like my friends, he wants me to sit with him but I don’t rally talk to his frinds so I think that would be awkward)

Lol sorry for how long this is.

Answer #1

wow… dont take either one seriously… it takes six months to “get over” someone. 6 months. So at two months whatever caused your break up in the first place is still unresolved and ready to wreak more havoc. Besides if you get back with him and he was controling what do you think he will have to say about you liking the other guy? If you like the other guy do you really love your X? And always remember that if you have to think about whether someone likes you than do not take that person seriously. Games are a waste. You will always know.

Answer #2

Hm this is a tough decision. What was teh reason for you two breaking up in the first place? I agree it does take longer than two months to be over someone. So I would take things slow with the new guy. build a friendship first to see if you really like him or if it is that you like the idea of him (because you miss companionship that you had with your ex-boyfriend).
As for your ex, being controlling is not a great sign. It may progress as your elationship progresses, and being that you guys have slept together AND you were his first, he views you as his property. A lot of men are like this. I would just take it slow with the new guy and really weight the costs and benefits of getting back together with your ex.

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