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I've been involved with the same woman for over a year & a half. She met someone else moved in with him married him, but everytime they fight she runs straight to me.I love her but, I don't trust her much anymore. She's in another fight with her husband, she wants to move in with me. She's in bad health as am I do I take the chace? life is short
You are right, Life is short. However, there is a difference between being there for someone and being used by someone. The woman you were involved with has probably learned that in difficult situations, you are a person she can trust and rely on. The thing is this...she made a decision to remove herself from your relationship and start one with someone else. Because of that, she needs to try and understand that it would be rather difficult for you to welcome her back with open arms. If she is only turning to you when she is arguing with her husband, that is showing you that she is only turning to you when she needs something ( example: a place to live) that's a really unfair thing to do to you. People do make mistakes, and forgiveness is warranted and im sure that you do love her and want the best for her..but that can be shown by helping her get a place of her own, or giving her solid advice as to what to do with her relationship..Basically being a friend to her. If you were to be in a relationship with her again you know that in the back of your head you would always wonder if something was going on, and who she was calling when you were in a fight. Break ups are called break ups..because they are broken.. Best of luck
Your ex wife can't just run to you evrytime she has a problem with her husband. You need to have a talk with her. Tell her how you feel that she is just coming to use you. Remind her that you are there for her whenevr she needs a talk, but not for you to be caught in between her personal life, her fights with her husband.
Being as you're allowing yourself to be inserted into someone elses marriage, you're right - life could be very short - married to someone else, no your concern...Good luck !!
AMEN to nl83!
phrannie
