When is it okay to get a divorce

you should really read this part of what you wrote:"when he has never been faithfull or honest with me since the start" that should answer alot of what your asking. he cheatted on you,you should never be with someone who doesnt care about youre feelings and hurting you. Alcohol and drug addictions are bad, but disease or sickness or not no side-effect is hurting youre wife. You have two children, do you really want this in there lives? Also, by cheatting on you he's bringing women you have no control over into youre life and youre kid's lives. You dont know what kind of nut one of them could be and try to hurt youre kids to get back at him or try to hurt you. obviously he doesnt care about the marriage or of his kid's safety. find someone better, for the sake of youre children, and someone who will take care of you and be the husband and father you and youre kids deserve. someone told me once and maybe it will help you too:its better to have to be alone then to be with someone who hurts you. hope this helped

finding a qualified counselor to ask this to would be a good idea for you, to gain a professionals point of view.

Despite what you may have heard elsewhere…

Addiction is not a disease. It is a controllable behavior. If you want to quit something badly enough it can be done. The key is in the "wanting to" part once someone has acknowledged there is a problem.

seek professional help. it is unlikely you would be able to resolve this on your own.

he didnt care about the marriage vows when he cheatted on you, so leaving this destructive marriage with an abusive husband would be in youre best interest. he's the one who broke the vows, youre just reacting to it by leaving. which is the right response

Seek help for your husband talk to him again key word communication.. Sometime after you get married you become comfratble with it and just almost live as friends . I mean that is the way me and my husband are now. If you think he has a problem with dranking apporace him with it, ask him why he needs to drank if he is worried about something? And drugs is also a addiction to try and make something bad dissapear like a worry ect ect. He is troubled and that is his escape and he dosen’t see that it hurts you. Try takling with him and getting him to go to rehabe again mabey you can go together. Good luck with this hope this helped.

What you should do is sit down and talk to your husband about this matter. Is it really worth all the trouble of getting a divorce? Have you tried marriage counseling? Something that I'm sure has helped a ton of people is having a temporary seperation and then move back in with each other after about a month or two. My answer is to do everything you can before you even consider having a divorce. Think about what it could do to your daughters, and your life.

And drugs and alcohol use is never excuse for behaviour, his actions are his choice. he chose to cheat on you, no excuse makes it better

When the lines of communication break down completely, when one or the other commits infidelity, abuse is taking place and so on.