What will it be next??!!

Me and my boyfriend havent been together too long, like 1 month, everything is pretty cool but I rarely call him because (1) I just dont call people and (2) He never answers my phone call anyway, then calls me back 5 hours later. I aint trippin bout that, he be busy, I be busy, why worry myself about that. BUT the thing is, if I miss his call he will keep calling me, like every minute, then send me a text and ask why am I not answering. This drives me nuts! Most of the time I just miss his call because I was away from my phone for a minute. I always call him back in less than 10 minutes. It makes me feel like he doesnt trust me. When he does call me and I do answer, he always asks me what am I doing, and expects to hear nothing, like he dont want me to be doing anything but be at home, studying or something. I hate having insecure boyfriends! They ask too many questions! I dont like being asked what am I doing and where Im at, like Im supposed to be doing something wrong! BUT ANYWAY what else is typical of someone with this kinda insecurity? What can I expect to be next!? If I dont answer my phone and dont call him back til an hour is he going to show up at my house??? Will he eventually become possessive and abusive? I this behavior supposed to be cute? Am I supposed to feel special or something?? lol Does he not trust me because he’s doing wrong?? What do you think? Please anyone who has been there and done that, tell me what to expect!

Thank you, Miss Lady

Answer #1

Ok I will let him know that he can trust me and has nothing to worry about (why do I feel like I’ve already done that!) I wil also be sure to use “I” language so he wont get all defensive!

If this doesnt work then what? Will it get worse one day?

Answer #2

I think you need to lay down the law fast, before he becomes even more protective, dont be agressive, be firm but fair, let him no how important it is for him to trust u, and its smothering if he keeps behaving this way, just communicate.

what he is doing is not fair to you, you are allowed to be doing watever you like, seeing whoever you like, and talking (or not talking) to whoever you like (I.e not answering his calls). Let him know he can trust you and has nothing to worry about.

Answer #3

What epic fail said… also, try using basic couple skills… using “I” language, I feel like you dont trust me, I dont like it when you do this because I feel this… vs. You are this or you are doing that… it makes it less aggressive…

Answer #4

Just keep this in mind… it will only get as bad as you let it… if things do not improve you have the option of leaving… you can only change what you do… you cannot change him… the minute you feel unsafe you need to leave…

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