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We have been together for 4 years and broken up a couple of times but got back.
Recently we met for dinner and had a nice time and she invited me back to her house and I stayed the night but nothing happened just cuddled.
She then said lets meet for coffee last Tuesday and that was ok and we then agreed to dinner on Thursday.
She then sent a text on Thurs morn - Had a bad nights sleep and feel shattered can we leave tonight? I replied no problem shall we rearrange for Friday.
I get no reply and on Saturday I send text Hope you ok Is there anything wrong? Shall we do something next week?
She replies I am a bit confused as I thought relationship was over but you assume it is back on. I a m a bit tired by whole scenario and need tim to clear my head and think. Maybe we can speak at end of week. itexted absolutely fine have a good week.
Is she playing mind games? She is a control freak and why ask to see me etc if she feel its over.
Please someone shed some light as my head is going crazy. Thanks
It sounds like she doesn't want to be with you but she is afraid to be alone. I could be completely off base so don't take this completely to heart. She did say she is confused so just back off for a while and let her make the first move. Also being up front about everything is really important and it sounds like she's not being clear with you about what she wants. If she keeps doing this back and forth bullshit just sit down with her and ask her straight up what she wants. If she can't tell you then just move on. It's not worth you're time to deal with that kind of drama
I say, give her space, play hard to get. You can't be available everytime she says let's get together and then have her bail last minute that isn't fair. If you act as if you have other plans that could be more entertaining, she will get jealous and want to talk to you. Playing hard to get gives you the upper hand in many situations, so back off a bit and even if you are sitting at home all night pretend you aren't.
Thank you for your kind response.
I should just add that whenever she says Maybe we can speak at the end of the week she will never contact me knowing I will text her.
She is very insecure.
Do I just move on and not make any contact with her?
I still have feelings but I do not want to be treated with no respect and it is arrogant that she thinks I assume we were back together.
Well my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and I have wicked mood swings. My boyfriend just show that he cares about me and let's me cool down before we get into such a big fight that we break up! Just give her time and when she's ready to talk explain that you care about her and you would like to give your relationship another chance
