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What should I do with my boyfriend who has anger issues?

I have been with my boyfriend for over 7 months now but I am now noticing he has some anger issues/overanalyzes everything. I have tried talking to him but it still continues a little bit.

For example, I had a bad day last Friday with work and family issues and I went to go see him in the evening and I wasnt as chipper as usual. So right away he thinks he did something to upset me, so he yells at me for being mad at him for nothing and ruining his evening. Meanwhile, it had nothing to do with him and I just had a rough day and he wouldnt listen to me.

Also, last night we were driving home and a coyote ran across the road and he made some rude comments about how he doesnt care about it. So I had said “its peoples attitudes like that that frustrate me” since I am an environmentalist getting my degree. He blew up at me calling me f**king annoying and yelled at me for thinking HE frustrates me (turning my words around).

I can never win with this guy, I feel like Im on my last straw. What do you suggest? I love him but Im hurt.

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Answer #1

ok DONT forget about him because MY boyfriend did that and he would ALWAYS tell me im ruining his day because I just wanted to vent a little and exactly if im not happy NO ONE IS…he can NEVER be happy just by himself…For example: We are sitting on the couch watching tv and im not smiling talking just watching tv which is fine, but if I dont talk or say anything he will never say anything, if I say something about us and I don’t know how he stares at the tv with his mouth open lol and ill laugh but he will be like “what do you want me to do look at you with my mouth open …like that would happen” Wow right. Now I have ruined his day…

Itll get worse and your gunna keep feeling like sh*t …trust me I would get a little upset and I mean he would get mad and then he would force me to stop crying and soon it turned in to him grabbing my shoulders and shuving me to look at myself in the mirror how crazy I look and that I do THIS to myself. I push him to that point, where he is pushing and hitting me hard…Thats my fault.

dont stay long…He is just an unhappy person I have realized and without you he doesnt have anything in his life that he would want…he wants happiness too and even though he wants it so bad out of you..it almost is like you annoy him because you are so happy and kinda just positive about things…and if you arent, I think you remind him of himself, which he hates because again, unhappy with himself. He has to go through an expirience before that changes…my guy is off the army..(= we arent talking now but before he leaves I will tell him we will write…

My something of a man…has a family that just kicks him around…he doesnt have a mother and I don think he was ever really happy until he kinda met me…I just want him to be happy thats all I want and I try so hard and now Im tired…

stay with him… your gunna have to go through it all until YOU break…no one can tell you to go…

once your head says “I gotta leave this guy nothing is helping and im really hurting mentally, emotionally, and later maybe physically.” Just do what your doing…your fine…just waiting for him now to put you over the edge…

itll happen…

make sure you dont get pregnant…thats not fun either..

Answer #2

Let me ask you a question. You’ve posted several questions about what to do with your boyfriend who flirts with other girls, likes to smoke and party, ignores you, lies to you, etc etc etc. Now he gets angry at you. For the last 5 months (I.e. two months after you began seeing this guy), you’ve had one issue after another. Why are you still with him and asking us what to do about him? Seriously? Things are not getting better, they’re only getting worse, these are issues you cant deal with, and yet you stay with him, and you keep coming back to complain? Do you really want to do something about this? Or is it just nice to have someone support you when you talk about how much of a jerk he is?

Answer #3

its prbably gunna get worse if you dont do anything soon. tell him to talk to someone or ypur leaving cause your fet up with him being selfish always complaining and never listing to others when there upset. tell him its a 2 way street

Answer #4

Forget about him he’s probley going through some big issues in his life right now and he’s looking for an excuss to take it out on you. HE loves you and this is a way of keeping you with through fear, dont be with him and leave him as soon as possible you will be much happeir. If you stay with him he will just get worse and you wont end up leaving him because of fear and want to help

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