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what should I do? Please help :( ?

I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now and I’m not happy. He treats me bad. And I can’t seem to find anymore faith in him anymore. He always brakes his promises with me, and lies. I can’t trust him and he doesn’t trust me. I have been unhappy for way too long now. And I have given him too many second chances to change and to treat me better. But he always brakes them like it’s nothing and expects me to give more chances, and I always fall for it. I want a new life. I really don’t want to live this life for ever. I always try to believe he will change for me, to treat me better. But he always fails. And when he treats me bad and doesn’t let me live the life I wish I could, I feel depressed and low. He’s really controlling, and always accuses me of cheating when I don’t. I would like a new relationship with someone else who will be better to me. When my boyfriend tells me he loves me so much, it’s hard to believe him with the way he treats me and how he lies all the time.. I feel like there isnt any more sparks in this relationship. The only I love about this relationship is how close we are and how I can just be me and not worry about what he thinks of me.. I’m afraid noone will except me for who I am like my boyfriend does.. I have very low self esteem I dont think I can do better, but god do I wish. Recently I met a guy who seems like a very good person. He’s sweet, and very cute happy And I have been talking to him secretly over the net. I would like to get to know him more and see if I can do better or be excepted for who I am. Me wanting to get know this guy, do I really love my boyfriend? Wanting to get away from him and starting from scratch.. But scared to not be excepted like the way my boyfriend does to me? I’m only 16 and I know it sounds silly but I am actually scared to be alone for the rest of my life… :’( I have sacrificed so much for him, even my friends, I don’t have any friends anymore. Please someone give my professional advice or at least someone who has been through the same, I know most of you will say dump him but, it’s easier said then done.. thank you.

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Answer #1

Thank you all, I have broken up with him, all I’m worried about is that he’s going to lure me into his trap again.. Convince me to be with him or believe him, etc. About changing and treating me better.. I am falling out of love of hm, and for some reason I dont care? Is that bad? I want to move on, I want a new life, I’m just worried I wont have the same comfort like I did with my ex boyfriend… thats all. He thinks he is going to change, and treat me better, he really wanted me to believe him, but I couldnt find it in me too? So I left him before he had the chance to hurt and lie to me again.. Because I have given him way to many chances because hes blown them all, I couldnt do it one last time.. he acts like I was in the wrong for leaving him, because I didnt want to believe him. I just couldnt take it anymore. what will help me to get over him?? Thank you soo much everyone. xx

Answer #2

Being a guy and all I would suspect that he is not “in-love” with you by any means. From the sounds of it it seems like he enjoys making you feel worthless and insignificant over and over again. You must put an end to this as soon as possible. Stand up too that bully of a boyfriend of yours and tell him that either he gets his shit together or your not gonna be with him anymore. If he says fine I don’t care. Then you no he really was just unsing you. :\ if he try’s to say he will do better I would simply say that you will think about it. And then you think about it. try to figure out if its genuine. ( his answer ) And if he continues to do bad and treat you like poo then THROW THAT BOY OUT IN DA RAIN!!!

hope I could give a little insite on what must be done.

Answer #3

cut off all ties to him,if he’s not willing to sacrifice then you shouldnt have to either..

Answer #4

I have not gone through what you have, but if you’ve given up your friends for him, constantly worry and are always lied to by him–it’s time to take a break. You don’t exactly have to break up with him, but it’s unhealthy for you to be in the relationship with him at the moment. Get away. Simple say, “I think we need a break; maybe for about (period of time; three months, ten months, a year or two etc.) so we can see other people and make sure this is what we want. I still really like you. Some say time away helps strengthen the relationship..” etc. I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to get away for a while. People change, especially at that age.

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