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What should I do, my friend wants to die?

My best friend is contemplating suicide. I have tried talking to her and suggested getting a counsellor but she refuses to go. I have run out of ideas and cant bear looosing her. What should I do?

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Answer #1

What to do:

  1. Ask direct, straightforward questions in a calm manner: “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?”
  2. Assess the seriousness of the suicidal intent by asking questions about feelings, important relationships, who else the person has talked with, and the amount of thought given to the means to be used. If a gun, pills, a rope, or other means have been obtained and a precise plan has been developed clearly the situations is dangerous. Stay with the person until help arrives.
  3. Be a good listener and be very supportive without being falsely reassuring.
  4. Try to persuade the person to obtain professional help and assist him or her in getting this help.

What not to do:

  1. Do not ignore the warning signs
  2. Do not refuse to talk about suicide if a person approaches you about it.
  3. Do not react with humor, disapproval, or repulsion
  4. Do not give false reassurances by saying such things as “Everything is going to be OK.” Also do not give out simple answers or platitudes, such as “You have everything to be thankful for.”
  5. Do not abandon the individual after the crisis has passed or after professional help has commenced.

Good luck with your friend!

Answer #2

Coming from someone of experience, don’t force help on her if she doesn’t want it. Just be there to listen to her when she cries, remind her why your her friend, of all the good times you’ve had together. But don’t brush it off, or try to deal with it through humor because that doesnt end well.

Answer #3

What would be preferable? An angry but alive friend. Or a dead friend? Get her the help whether she wants it or not.

Answer #4

be a good friend listen -care - I am going through the same thing right now- it is stressful worring about what their doing while your not around. but really thats what it is all about want someone to care. - sciencitific fact : people who are really serious about killing themselves don’t tell any one before they do .. the approch I am useing (I am NOT a cerified counceler) is I am being accepting of their decision - my friend is an adult. and just listen to him while he cries - and tell him that there is some one who gives a shit about weither they are alive or not..

Answer #5

tell someone right away she may be mad at you but its worth saving her life.

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