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What should I do Im confused and affraid?

I left my boyfriend and I think im pregnant.

I left my boyfriend 2 days ago, because he loves smoking weed and I dont like it. I love him so much I never wanted to leave him but he was never himself when he was high. The day before I broke up with him I was not feeling good, but sence that day it has been getting worse. My breast hurt, when I smell fruit I feel like I want to vomit. I tried eating today and it came back up and then all of a sudden the smell of the food smelled revolting when just a few min before it smell wounderful. Im always tired and I pee a lot now. Im not afraid of having a child but Im afraid of having one and not having a boyfriend, but I cant be with him because he gets high. He said he had always wanted to have children with me. But I dont think he loves me enough to stop smoking weed. Im only 17 and he is 22 he was my very first kiss very first boyfriend the first person I gave my heart to, I would do anything for him but he just cant do this one little thing for me and quite smoking weed. Part of me hopes that if I am pregnant and I tell him, he might quite doing it and be by my side. but part of me thinks he wont ever do that. what should I do ?

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Answer #1

So sorry to hear about you situation. If I was you, I’d be confused and scared too. The first thing you have to do is find out if you’re pregnant for sure…get a urine test and if it comes out positive schedule a blood test with your doctor. Don’t worry about your parents finding out, your doctor won’t tell them and if it comes back positive you’ll have to tell your parents you’re pregnant anyways. If you are pregnant, you’ll have to tell your ex boyfriend too. Maybe he will decide raising a happy healthy baby is more important than smoking weed and he’ll quit…or at least cut way back and never smoke it around you or when he knows he’s going to be with his child. Marijuana usage doesn’t have to be a problem as long as it’s used responsibly and in moderation. If you can’t tolerate his use of it or it causes a real problem in your relationship, it might be best for the baby you’re possibly having and yourself to stay away from him. Just take it one step at a time and find out if you really are pregnant first. You may just be nauseous and achy feeling from the stress and sadness of leaving your boyfriend. Good luck and take care!

Answer #2

Well you can have your kid, if you are pregnet, and not have a boyfirned. I mean I know you love him but once you have the child and this guy who is smoke weed and all that is not ganna be a good influence in your child. Also did you have unprotected sex?

Take a pregnecy test and make sure that you are pregnet. And you are right, he does not care enuff to stop smiking weed. It will feel better soon, youll achually thank yourself later.

Answer #3

I would find out if I was first then go from there.. if you test positive then tell you ex whats going on and tell him that if he wants to be somewhat involved then he should consider and follow through and stop with the drugs that its not safe for you to be around if your pregnant or not. That you want him to be involved with the childs life and yours but only if he straightens up first.

but its your choice. thats just what I’d do// my boyfriend use to do all that stuff and still veryy very rarely does do that stuff but I broke up with him told him why and that if he wanted me back he had to stop.. and I know what you mean afraid your pregnant and afraid to not have him by your side.. but telling him was the smartest thing I did. im about to be 17 and afraid im pregnant also. my boyfriend is always by myside now..

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