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I think my girlfriend is going to leave me and I really dont want her to what should I do. Should I talk to her about it or just leave it and hope for the best ?
If you're concerned that there is a problem, the mature thing to do is to approach her about it (yourself, not your friends, not WITH your friends) when you both are alone and have a length of time appropriate to discuss the issue in depth. Between classes is not a good choice, neither is at lunch. I would see how things pan out, and then call her after dinner, or, better yet, get together after dinner. Let her know that you suspect she may be wanting to break up. Let her know your rational reasons why you're feeling insecure about it (you 'just sensing it' isn't a rational reason- her not returning your calls at all and ignoring you in the hallway would be a good example). It's OK if she does break up with you, you need to know that. It's ok for you, and it's ok for her. You're teenagers, this is by no means the greatest relationship of your life, and it will by no means be expected to last forever. You're dating to have fun and because you like each other's company- if either one of those things changes for one of the people in the relationship, it stops being worth the effort. You're not married, you don't have to stay together. In fact, breaking up before it gets ugly is often a great way to salvage a friendship. Truth is, if she doesn't want to be with you, you can't make her. You can guilt her into it, but she'll resent you. But try talking it out- see if there is a behavior you can change (not a personality trait- a BEHAVIOR) to make things work better. There may be nothing wrong- we girls can act aloof unintentionally sometimes. You wont know until you talk it out in a calm, loving, mature manner. Good luck- I hope things work out for you.
well... I've been through that and I think do what I did: talk to her in person, take her somwhere, movie, out to dinner, even a park. Somewhere where you can really talk to her. Start by giving her very soft, gentle loving kiss. Tell her hr lips are soft and that you love her. If she hesitates...somthing is wrong.. Ask her whats wrong. if she says nothing, Hold her in your arms and say "If I could...I would pause this momment and keep it my forever..." I know it sounds chessy, but it doesnt when you mean it((: I hope everything goes good((: I hope for you the best... -victoria(:
umm well maybe you should talk to her tell her youre worried about it and you want a straight forward answer as to if she is going to or even thinking about it... tell her how you feel about her and then say youre really worried about it =) x
if your worried about it then one way you can check is have one of your friends talk to her or just ask her and tell her how you really feel about her. I went through that it realy sucks but if you want to talk more then add me as a friend
