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What should I do follow my head or my heart?

However random and maybe stupid some people might find this il still take any advice. Anyway I started to speaking to a girl over the net about two years ago. We met randomly online I got her email from a friend of a friend and so on. We started chating randomly about anything and everything because we where about both 16 at the time so its the stuff you do at that age. Soon we started to chat on the phone aswell (wev still shared special moments) , we both relised we lived far away from each other but not to far to be impossible to see each other. After a while we started to relise we liked each other and went on webcam to look at each other and so on. And we both liked what we saw and decided to go out online. But being young it was just a thing that didnt last long, and before we knew it we would arguee everynight about everything and anything. Then our friends got involved and it got out of hand. But over time we have always found away of making up and coming back to each other and being friends again and then saying we love each other again. But most times it ended like the first time. And wev been over it a lot of times. But recently we got back in touch after a fair gap and wer really close again and I’ve matured since and tonight we discussed all the things wed have to do to go out trust and beliving each other mainly. She lives in norwich and I live in birmingham and its only and matter of time before I can drive or catch a train to see her. But from all of this even though she has some problems but I still belive il love her even with them, because noone should be judged on anything that might be going on in theyre life. I know this is one big massive mouthfull to take in but after reading that but that gives a sorta idea of whats going on. So do I follow my heart and il love her reguardless of some concerns. Or do I follow my head and take my concerns that I dont think I can trust her? No matter what I always find myself draw back to her, as she does to me (Is it lust/Love I dont know). I really dont know what to think, can anyone relate or give any advice on the two questions above?

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Answer #1

If you are going to be with her make sure she is as devoted to her and she will be to you. It takes two people to make a successful relationship and if she hasn’t matured since you guys were younger then I would say back off until she grows up. Sometimes things happen in a relationship that you can never recover from and if you start a relationship without it being ready to start then you are destined to fail. If it is meant to happen then it will but I would not go out of your way to see her unless she is going out of her way to be and see you. I know you love her and I’m not saying talk to her or hang out with her just be wary about how dedicated you get to this girl since you say that your gut is telling you that you should not fully trust her. If you cannot trust a loved one then I would not count on her to be there for you when you need it most.

Answer #2

these types of things are really hard. you need to talk about it and you need to decide for yourself if you can trust her and if you properly care about her and want to be with her…more love… or if you just find her hot and can have a laugh…probably more lust… but if both then you sound good. remember relationships ALWAYS are hard work and think about if you think its worth it or she’s worth it. my advice follow your heart but be wary of your head. you dont want to be hurt but you dont want to stop yourself from falling in love either… she sounds lucky to have you because you seem like a really nice guy that obviously cares about her a lot :)but yeah you’ll be able to drive soon and stuff which will make it easier. :) just dont rush into things again and build up your trust properly, if you dont want it to be just another stupid teen relationship all the best xx

Answer #3

Man! That’s harsh.. I will tell you from my expeirence.. That trust is the key.. And if you even have the smallest doubt f trust.. You will find yourself back to that On/Off relationship again.. I’m not saying you can’t make things work.. But odds are against you.. And you answered the question yourself.. Love is love.. You don’t have to ask yourself that.. You just know.. Just think about it.

Answer #4

Before starthig anathing I would really explain to her all our feelings because obously it was something crazy you went trough. Just tell her all your feelings and tell her that you really do love her and let her know that is true love. And tell her that if you guys are going to go out you want this to be sirius.

You have grown up and still realize that you love her so follow your hart but also tell her everything that is on your mind.

Good Luck!:)

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