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What should I do

Ok there is this guy that I work with and we have been “involved” for about 8 months and we are both in love. The problem is that he isnt suppose to date people from work due to his position. He could get fired just for being seen with me out side of work, and that isnt the only problem he is also married. This whole thing between us was never suppose to last this long all we were looking for was a one time thing. I din’t want to get involved with him. But for some reason we let feelings get in the way and we cant stay away from each other. My friends think its just about the sex, but its not anymore. The problem is that he has no plans on leaving his wife. I keep asking him what he wants from me but he always says that he dont know. All he knows is that he loves me. I just don’t know what to do. I have never been with a married man before and I feel bad for having him cheat on his wife every time we are together.

If he can’t make up his mind then this relationship won’t go anywhere. Married men tend to like the side relationship and want to have all the benefits without having to go through the divorce. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feelings for you. It just means he is more comfortable with the status quo and isn’t ready to leave his old relationship. Question is what do you want from this relationship? First is the work situation you mentioned. Problematic because some will have to quit in order to keep the relationship going. Also if you break up, will you be able to work with him every day? You really need to think about this. Next, having an affair is all nice and dandy when poeple know what they want. You guys seem to have gone into this head over heels and now have an emotional mess to clean up. I think a break might be in order. You guys need to think about what this all means to you and where you want to go from here on. Last but not least, listen your friends, they care about you and don’t want to see you hurt. If your feeling guilty about this relationship then it isn’t giving you the smiles and happy sighs you should be having when you are in love. You deserve these moments of happiness and might not be getting them with this particular man because of his situation. Like I said, take a step back and try to see a larger perspective and don’t weigh yourself down too much about it. If it,s meant to be solutions will come, if not then you’ll notice that it’s not worth the fight.

What should I do

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