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Theres this guy I know and I've known him for about four years and everyone's always like" don't trust him, don't even get to know him because he is the biggest jerk" and I never believed them. Every time I used to see him he was always sweet and shy and just so charming and supposedly he's like had a crush on me since year 8 then I didn't see him for a couple of years and then one day I went into this cafe and he was working there and when he saw me he started blushing and lost his attention so he dropped all the plates he was carrying and was so embarrassed and he was just so sweet and polite to me and ever since then every Wednesday I go into this cafe and we always have like a little chat(and they also make the best ever gourmet toasted sandwiches there!) >Two weeks when I went in as I was leaving I forgot to say good-bye to him and as I was walking out the door he called out "good-bye" so I turned around and said good-bye to him so the next time I went in there I made sure I said good-bye to him and then he just flashed me the most gorgeous smile ever and said good-bye but then as I was just walking out the door I heard the other guy working there say" I told you she would come in today" and he laughed and said "yeah", but this laugh wasn't a nice laugh if you get what I'm saying. It was full of mirth and arrogance and it was almost like he was saying "yeah, she's so pathetic" I wasn't even out the door yet! I told my friends about it and I feel like such a fool for giving him a chance when everyone said I should of just stayed as far away from him as I could because he's bad news and all my friends are saying( except for one) that I should never go back in there and I just don't know what to do. If I don't go back In there he'll know I heard and that he hurt my feelings and if I do then I'll look even more pathetic. What should I do? (and no sarcastic or mean comments thanks)
Hey there Caroline.
Let me point out that most guys ARE jerks, and this is a perfect example of one. From what I can tell, he knows exactly how to lure girls. I'm sorry you had to be one of them... But hey, this is the perfect chance for you to give him a little taste of his own medicine. That way, he'll learn that instead of him having you wrapped around his finger, you actually have him wrapped around your middle one.
Remember to ALWAYS listen to what you're friends feel about a guy. Especially if more than one agree.
So. This is what I strongly suggest you do. Don't go back to the cafe next wednesday, or even the wednesday after that. On the third wednesday, go to the cafe alone like usual. (Make sure he's there) Act nice, but instead of saying "hey" right away to him, ignore him. Eventually, meet eye contact with him one time. But dont smile, dont blush, just pretend he's a nobody (like someone you pass by on the street, and think nothing of). Order a drink from a different worker (if it's the guy. Dont smile or give him too much attention for his ego. Just be your normal self. No flirting.) Take a seat (make sure you brought a small book to pretend to read), and enjoy your drink. When the guy comes over to sit with you, smile and be nice. Talk to him, and flirt a little but not a lot). Make sure he asks you "So what are you doing here?" Or something along those lines. Then this is where the fun part begins! Tell him innocently that you're hanging out with this really great guy. A DATE.
(See if you or your friends can arrange a guy to come in and pick you up from the cafe, right in front of this jerk. See if you can get a cute one!)
When he see's this... he'll feel like a complete idiot, and jerk. And most likely.., he'll want you because he cant have you.
(Dont give into him. DO NOT. He's not even worth the heartache. believe me..)
~ your friend, Lady
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I think you should go back. NOT for him, but for the sandwiches. Go at a time when you wouldn't normally go, though, and don't be friendly to him. HE sounds pathetic, not you!
Go back but don't go back as often as you were. Don't let some guy keep you from where you want to be! =) good luck.
