What should I do??

There are many different types. The most common being: (1), crescent-shaped, crescentic, or posterior rim: no hymenal tissue at the 12 o’clock position; narrow band of tissue starts at 1 or 2 o’clock going clockwise, is at its widest around 6 o’clock, and tapers off at 10 or 11 o’clock; (2), annular, or circumferential: the hymen forms a ring around the vaginal opening; especially common in newborns; (3), redundant; sometimes sleeve-like: folds in on itself, which sometimes causes it to protrude; most common in infancy and at/following puberty due to estrogen levels; can be combined with other type such as “annular and redundant.”

A hymen doesn’t actually “break” because it normally doesn’t cover the entire vaginal opening. It surrounds it. There are, however, abnormalities to the hymen (as with most anything else on the earth). If it hurts to insert even tampons this means you may end up having a hymen that just doesn’t want to stretch or is just really thick.

The surgery you’re referring to is a hymenotomy. This may be required if the hymen is particularly thick or inelastic as it may interfere with sexual intercourse.

You can either just work at it by stretching it during a normal “feel-up” session with yourself, by inserting smaller objects and working your way thicker, or you can go to the doctor and get surgery.

Now don’t think surgery will be thousands and thousands of dollars to get because it’s probably not. It’s basically a “snip-snip” and you’re done. Surgery is easy, however, finding doctors that do such procedures is usually not. Talk to your family doctor and see if they know anybody that performs such procedures.

Anything else, let me know. Good luck!