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What is it ? Emotionally attached to some one , how can you stop it?
An emotional attachment is simply where you build a bond with somebody or a friendship with somebody and as time passes you grow closer to that person emotionally (that person does not need to be growing closer to you in return; it just depends). When this closeness gets to a stage where you trust this person more than other people and you want to spend more time with this person, this implies that you are becoming emotionally attached.
In my opinion, emotional attachment is more of an illustration as to how good a relationship with somebody is. Emotional attachment may be how much you care about someones, trust someone, etc, but most of us already know that. I think of the level of emotional attachment you have towards someone as being an indicator of the success of your relationship with that person (whether he/ she is a friend, partner, parent, work-mate, etc).
As for how to stop it, that is a tricky thing to do. Not getting hurt in the process is almost impossible seeing as you are depriving yourself of seeing someone you care about and/ or you are trying to break down a friendship in a way. If you feel that you must lose the attachment, then distancing yourself (somewhat) is one step you can take.
Talking to the person/ interacting with the person on a different and less desirable level is another way to slowly sever the ties. Unfortunately though, if you really are emotionally attached to someone, then you are going to get hurt by doing this. But if you take it slow and don't do anything drastic, the pain will be less severe.
I knew a dude that was maybe a 5/10 on a good day. He wasn’t ugly, but he wasn’t particularly attractive. But he was nice enough and had a normal job. He was definitely dateable and wanted a girlfriend. A cute girl, right up his league, would be flirting with him at a social function. After, I’d say, “Hey man - you should take her out. She seemed to like you.” He’d say, “Eh. she’s not that attractive.” Another girl, cuter than him by translation: “Eh - she is ugly. I can do better.” Then, he’d go and start macking on some chick who was so ridiculously out of his league, and who was clearly uncomfortable talking to him. He was so disillusioned. It was frustrating. This cycle repeated itself - he’d turn down signals from great girls over and over because he thought he deserved some Instagram model. Spoiler alert - 10 years later - he is still single. Too many people have ridiculous expectations in the dating world. “Hot” people aren’t the only ones who are vain. Same goes for relationships with a huge level of cheating. I would suggest an amazing specialist on infidelity cases. see villahacker001 at gmail. com. He his the perfect specialist for all infidelity related issues
you can't when your attracted to someone, your attracted to someone. dont fight it.xx
