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what does this means when a guy says he needs time to work on his issues?
I just had a break up with my long distance relationship boyfriend.he said he and me needs time to work on our issues.at first I tried to understand about it.then I beg him to go back but still thats the same reason he had.im thinking maybe he found someone new, I bore him or I dunno.im really confused.we were fighting over non sense things because I felt he wasnt interested in me anymore.he doesnt text me the usual or when I want him to go online he refuses.the last time we talk I asked if I can see him on cam he says hes signing off.I asked him if I have to hold on to his promise that I wont lost him,he said yes.,he says he love me too.does he really do?I told him that I hope things will get better and work out,he said yes he hopes too.I can really feel the coldness..pls advice me on what to do.
basically he is saying he cares but not showing it. I would let his actions dictate how you feel about him. if he is being cold, then I wouldnt bother messing with him. mandyloo is right, this is a cliche line.
I would tell him that "working out issues" is not a relationship and it isnt good enough for you to sit around and wait for him to stop being a jerk. So your not going to wait.
In my luck with long distance, it seems that no matter how close you are, you will end up fighting over stupid things because phone/IM and txt are all inferior communication to actually seeing facial expressions. So maybe he is fed up with the fighting, and doesnt understand that this is normal in long distance.
Here is the catch. you nor him can not work on any issues you have together if you are not communicating. cutting off communication is not the solution. This is what makes me think he is trying to pull something shady.
:( I ha ve been in that decision. sounds 2 me like he may love you but he has something else going ont hat he wants to explore but wants best of both worlds to have you waiting around int he sidelines if whatever or whoever it is, doesn't work out. YOu deserve more than that! in the end it is up to you, but think if he loved youu. Do you think he would be the reason for your constant sadness? and doesn't do a damn thing 2 try to take your pain away? just a thought. hope you feel better best of luck!
That is on the classic break up lines that people use - when they don't want to tell the truth. It's over - move on.
