SHE ALWAYS STAY IN A BAD MOOD, SHE HITS HER BROTHERS AND SISTERS, SHE USES BAD LANAGE, SHE BACK TALKS PARENT, SHE WANTING TO SMOKE CIG. WHAT DO YOU THINK THAT I NEED TO DO ABOUT IT.
Kathy, Start with this...There is a place in Clark, New Jersey called Raway State penitentiary. Call information, get the number and tell them you want to enroll your daughter in the scared straight program they offer. Your daughter is headed to becoming a train wreck for the rest of her life. It can be prevented, however you must take drastic measures and this will be a great start. It will be worth the drive or plane ticket to get her there...remember when we as parents love our child so much, sometimes we have to demonstrate this love through areas of pain instead of comfort..however it is a controlled pain because you are initiating it and observing it. If you don't do everything in your power to teach her respect, self discipline and self control and "think" she will out grow it, you are only fooling yourself and I guarantee you someday... She will learn respect!! She will learn self discipline!! She will learn self control!! Etc!! However it won't be under your control...It will be under society's rules...Maybe in the form of prison..Maybe in the form of broken marriage.. Maybe in the form of addiction.. Maybe in the form of depression..etc.. who knows...but rest assure she will learn!! Get more aggressive and do what ever you have to do to save her life...You can do it!! Familycoach
wow I love how people on here say that this is normal but its NOT. Yes the experimentation with drugs and alcohol is unfortunately normal, but it is NEVER ok for a 15 year old to hit his/her own brothers and sisters. If that had happened to me she would be OUT. However, I do agree with previous comments about the boot camp stuff. That is a great solution. Yes, she may be angry at you for awhile but eventually she will accept that she had it coming (plus you wont have to worry about your kids being in danger). If she wants to smoke say fine-- but she has to smoke the whole pack in front of you. I know its a cliche but most kids I know that did that haven't smoked since (and most of them threw up lol). I was an angry teen (technically at 19 I'm still a teen, jsut not a dependant), but I never pulled shi* like that. There are things that people just shouldn't do, and if she can't learn respect for you FROM you, then someone else can teach her; someone in a military uniform.
ha! you need to give that girl a reality check! you own the house so you control whoevers under it!!!
im 14 and I dont give crap to my mom because she will give it back...I think you need to start laying down the law...she back talks u...ground her!
and if she wants to smoke ciggz because she wants to be grown up...have her get a job, shop for her own food, pay rent, do her own laundrey and everything else grownups do!!!
she needs to appreciate all your hardwork!!!
im sure itz just a phase but she needs to get over her self!!!
im sorry if this seems a little tough but my mom tellz me their iz no other love but tough love!!!
and remember...u are the parent...
I am 16. I was doing the same to my mom and my dad doesnt even have time for the family anymore. You need to put your foot down BUT NOT TO HARD!! If you to she'll try hard to make you mad. Show that he stuff she is doing is hurting you. Crying in front of her may work. I have my problems with my mom and I feel horrable when she crys. But still if you don't she will start smoking, drinking, partying, and even drugs and sleeping around if she's not already. so yeah come back to me. I'm going through everything now. I really wish my parents didn't give me the freedom that they did. I'm be so much better off.
I'm 16 and honestly I went through the same thing. I know you care about her but its something every teen goes through. Just give her space because she is probably having a tough time figuring out who she is as a person and is frusterated. Its also the time where she is the most vunerable to drugs and alcohol. Also friends could be a issue to.. theres so much going on in her life she is stressed and thats why she may talk back etc. My suggestion is sit her down just like my mom did and tell her that you understand and tell her that you know its a tough time for her. Anyways good luck!
Actually as a kid growing up my sister used to be the same way she was into drugs and would always back talk and hit me and my other sister until finally my mom got fed up with it and send her to the juvenile detention center a day there and she behaved for a little bit and a few weeks later they put her in for about three weeks and she was ok for good!!! dont give in its going to hurt to see her there but if idoesnt stop now she will be doing drugs and all kinds of other things like having sex...DONT EVER GIVE UP!
This is the time for tough love. I am 22 years old but I can still remember like it was yesterday the days when I was like that and even though I thought I hatwed my mom for ''controlling my life'' I love her even more for it now. I was pregnant at 15. I was a great student and a great kid but I had a wild streak in me. my number one tip it know who she is spending time with, if she tells you she will be somewhere check up on her story! just be involved
I AM 14 AND ALL I CAN TELL YOU IS TO TALK TO HER. UNDERSTAND WHAT A 15 YEAR OLD GOES THROUGH. ANGER CAN BE TAKEN OUT ON PEOPLE SHE IS COMFORTABLE AROUND. THINK ABOUT WHAT GOES ON AT SCHOOL.. PEER PREASURE..BEING 'POPULAR' I GO THROUGH IT EVERYDAY SO I DONT SEE WHY SHE WOULDNT.
THINK ABOUT IT.. IT MAKES SIENCE
BEST OF LUK. -MEGAN
give her needed space, be strict, DON'T KICK HER OUT! be patient, don't freak out at her, and talk to her. It will take a while. oh and watch your tone, talk to her like you care, talk to her about your past mistakes and tell her why you do what you do so that she'll understand, trust you, and respect you. good luck
I would say the same thing overit did ...dont ground her just try to show her you understand and tell her everything that can happen through drugs...
YOU NEED TO START GROUNDING HER AND DISCIPLINING HER AND YOU NEED TO SHOW HER REALITY IN SOME KIND OF WAY
YOU NEED TO START GROUNDING HER AND DISCIPLINING HER AND YOU NEED TO SHOW HER REALITY IN SOME KIND OF WAY
She still lives under your roof, does she not? Your place, your rules. Kick her out if you must.
You should have started a LONG TIME AGO.
