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What do you thinkk I should do?

So I have this really awesome guy-friend who was texting me earlier and he asked me to go out with him. (like girlfriend, boyfriend.) I’m really happy and flattered. And I’ve had a crush on him on and off for the past while… :) ♥♥♥

But I have a problem, we’re both LDS, and living in Mormonville, AZ. Because we’re LDS/Mormon, we’re not allowed to date until we’re 16, which I think is a little over-board. You know?

Also, my best friend is also LDS, and she doesn’t want me to date until I’m 16, and I don’t want to lose her. And I know I might if I date him.

Another thing. This is my first time a guy has asked me to do this, what if I say yes, and we end up breaking up a few months later, and we’ll never be friends again? I don’t want that to happen. What if I’m just blinded by happiness, and I do something stupid?

What if he asks me to kiss him? I’m not ready to go that far…

Thanks so much for reading. I’d really appreciate an LDS person’s input on this.

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Answer #1

“I wouldn’t let outdated beliefes stop me from exploring life”

good point, but…

13 is still sooo young, you’ve got all the time in the world to find out about yucky boys and sex etc.. take you’re time and enjoy life.

Answer #2

Can you get together with a chaperone (not a date, just “friends” hanging out)? If so, then why not do that instead for now?

Answer #3

Well, he’s about a year older than me, a little less actually and I’m 13.

Answer #4

You don’t want to have regrets I would personally date him if I was you it seems like y’all dig each other from what I just read. But how far are you guys from 16 I don’t think you should go against your religion and stuff to date

Answer #5

Toadaly has the perfect answer! Hang out with a bunch of friends and then go home.
Courting is when you find the one you will be married to for the rest of your life. If you date exclusively, how many break-ups for whatever reason will set you up for divorce later in life. I didn’t like this or I didn’t like that, and dump or be dumped. Go out and have fun with your peers–the ones you trust, and make new friends, and enjoy the day.

Answer #6

I wouldn’t let outdated beliefes stop me from exploring life

Answer #7

Well, I like the shaparone idea and go with him and others to hang out. When I joined the church in 2006, that’s when I found out that dating has to wait until you’re 16. I would wait since you’re only 13 and just hang out as friends. You don’t need to go far. I would be flattered too if someone asked me out. I would also speak to your bishop and ask him what you should do as far as going out with this guy. But, as long as he can obey the church standards, then you two should be fine. But again, you both will run into temptations That’s why shaparones are perfect for going out. Still I would get your bishop’s opinion on this. Good luck, and I hope you do the right thing.

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