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What do you think about a lesbian having a baby?

Hi my name is Jey and I wanted to ask if you think is normal for me to have a baby? Cause I am a lesbian but I love kids but I don’t want to have one of my own cause I just wasent’t ment to have one, Maybe sometimes I say maybe I do want to have one but that is not true…And I am really prepared to have a baby I am the woman a guy wants to have but, I hate man and I don’t even want to think of me having a baby of my own…Even sometimes my girl friend says to me that she wants me to have a baby with me. I do the man part in the house and she is the female you now what I mean. you now I am prepared to have a baby and have a familie bringing a baby to life, but this of having a baby wasen’t made for me? I need you opinion?

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Answer #1

It’s completely normal for you to have a baby. Even though you are a lesbian and play the ‘male role’ in your relationship, you are still a woman capable of carrying and giving birth to a baby. I don’t recommend you bringing an actual man into the situation, though. I understand having sex with a man would be repulsive to you and having sex with someone just to create a baby that he would then ‘give’ to you and your partner may or may not work out. What happens if he changes his mind and decides he wants to be a part of your child’s life? It would be less traumatic for everyone involved to go with adoption or if that isn’t an option, a sperm donor. You and your partner could go ‘shopping’ for the perfect match. You could request a donor with your same eye color and your partner’s ethnic background etc so that the baby would look as much like the two of you as possible and it would be more like the baby the two of you would have if it was physically possible. Do some research on sperm banks/donors in your area, legalities, doctors, expense, etc and then all you have to do is fight over who has to carry your baby for the next nine months…lol. Good luck, Jey. I wish you and your wife the best.

Answer #2

Yeah why not. I know a few lesbians that have kids. If you feel ready go for it.

Answer #3

I think its perfectly okay for a lesbian woman to have a baby of her own (maybe your girlfriend can do that or maybe you can also adopt if you dont want you or your girlfriend to get pregnant). it really depends on you and your partner if you are both ready for this commitment and if you are both capable of providing for the baby’s needs.

its normal for a couple to want a baby to start a family no matter if they are straight or not. :-)

good luck :-)

Answer #4

I say if you’re at the point where you feel prepared, then why not? - go for it!! if you and your partner are settled, know you can support a child, have a healty lifestyle… then why not? it dosen’t matter what your sexual preferance is! research and think of ways on how you and your partner may want to have/concive a child. - would you like to addopt, find a surrogate mother or perhapse get sperm from a donor? you and your partner need to disscuss this together first, because having a child is a big step in any relationship!!

Answer #5

I have a friend. she has a lesbian partner. & they are planning 2 have a baby of her own. (my female friend). a plan is,2 get a sperm donor that will come 2 a of lesbian’s brother. hahaha! do you have a brother? try it. goodluck!

Answer #6

lesbian or not… a mother is a mother. =)

Answer #7

I don’t find anything wrong with you having a baby. Do whatever makes you and your partner happy. Go for it :)

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