What do I do with this man?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now. I love him so much and we have so much fun but it seems like every week he hs to create some thing to get mad at me for. one day he got mad and wouldnt talk to me because I did not want to carry his cup around the mall after I threw mine in the trash just so I did not have to carry it. he gets mad at me all the time because I dont want to get it on with him which is usually one or two nights a week. I wake up at 4 in the morning to go to work and he gets home about 10pm and expects me to have energy. the other night I sacrificed and went to the club with him and stayed out till 3 am and had to be at work at 5. he come home and I had been asleep from the long night and after working all day and got mad because I was too sleepy to do it. he says things like now I know I have to leave you alone for us to be happy. I cant try to make you do things you dont want to do. we have so much fun together and we make love almost every day and multiple times a day but its never enough. I told him it hurts me when he treats me that way and then tells me he is going to show me whats it like to treat me bad. I love him and enjoy when he is not acting crazy but some times I feel so hurt and I get so mad about the naughty s thing. some times I feel like thats all he is in it for is nooky and I feel used and then I think about all the times we laugh and enjoy our time and even how good the nooky is. but why does it have to be so much? is something wrong, can this work?

Answer #1

Guilt, control, hurt feelings how much more can you take? You sound like you are on track with going to work and getting on with your life and making something of yourself. Do not let something or anyone take away anything from you that makes you feel like crap and hurt. Sometimes we love someone and then they or yourself change. Also we can be so in lust in the beginning that we miss or cover up signs and signals or behavior we do not want later in the realtionship. It will come down to the choice you make in the end. Good luck and get some rest.

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