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What do I do now that I've told my mom I want to move to my dad's?

everyones mad at me and me and my mom barely talk because she’s taking this the wrong way…I’ve already told her I still love her but she’s not letting me move and is putting up a fight and syas we have to go to court…and I have to talk to the jugde…how though? like in front of my parents or alone? and will the judge tell my parents what I said? and another question how can I make my mom understand that getting more time with dad instead of living with him permentallly is not what I want and why won’t she let me be happy?? and sorry but heres another question…will the jugde accept my reason of wanting to spend more time with my dad and that I’m happier there? sorry last one…what type of questions will the jugde ask? lol sorry this is so long…but I’m stressing

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Answer #1

‘I have to talk to the jugde…how though? like in front of my parents or alone?’

this entirely depends on the judge. Sometimes its alone, but usually the parents are there

‘and will the judge tell my parents what I said?’

if it’s alone, then you can ask the judge what he/she will be telling your parents. but they’re not going to disclose more than what is necessary

‘how can I make my mom understand that getting more time with dad instead of living with him permentallly is not what I want’

you can simply explain that you want to live with him. You cant make a person understand. If they choose not to understand (seriously, I dont think your mom is an idiot), then you cant do much about it

‘and why won’t she let me be happy??’

it would be to your benefit if you tried to not have a completely self centered view point. I know, you’re a teenager and your parents must be out to ruin your life at this point. But guess what. Most parents arent. Most parents love their kids and want what is best for them. If kids could do whatever they wanted, they’d probably self destruct. Is this what is best for you, who knows. But it is what she believes. Have your opinion, but dont forget that this comes from a place of love. Otherwise she’d just give you up and forget about you.

‘will the jugde accept my reason of wanting to spend more time with my dad and that I’m happier there?’

look, the thing is, that the judge is going to do what they believe is in your best interests. Given that kids will want to be with the more fun parent more often than not, the judge has to take into consideration everything (not just what you want), but given your age, you have a good chance of getting what you want, because you’re not as easily swayed or influenced.

Answer #2

I really dont know the answers but I asked my mom to live with my dad and she did not want me to go either so she just ended up talking to a counsler and I gave her some time and finally the counsler told her that I am old enough to make my own choices and I will find out if it really was a good choice. so now I have been living with my dad for about 2 and a 1/2 months and it is not as good as I thought I live like 4-5 hours away from where I used to live and I really miss it because I lived there since I was like 2 or 3 and im turning 14 next month and one of the big questions the judge will probably ask you is why you want to move to your dads you will probably end up talking to the judge alone and with your parents and your parents might tell the judge whatever you said and if its bad then your mom might say it to make you stay.. hope I helped!!

Answer #3

well hun I don’t think you know all the facts or you didn’t list them so…I’m going to attempt to fill in the blanks. Your parents aren’t together, you don’t live w/ one so most of the time that means the other parent is paying. Yea your mom probably is getting massive amounts of cash every month from your dad. child support You gong to live with him means thats she is going to have to pay it to your dad now, If I was in her situation I would be pissed too, but not at you. Also your mom I’m guessing doesn’t get along w/ your dad, hints why they are not together and this means for her that she will have to see him more. I hate to say it but youre stuck in the middle of their problems, just dont pay any attention to them and remember that the judge is on your side.

Answer #4

You will most likely be alone, I was. If for some reason they are, say what you feel but think over first, are you making the right decision? If theyre in there just block them out

Answer #5

Go to court, and no matter if your perents are there or not say everything you have to say. Think of what you would like before thinking about what other would like. Pretend that your perents are not there, and just focus on what the judge is saying. and also say the answers that you would like to say. Your reasons may or not convice the judge it is al depending on them, but being complitly honest with what you want is what will make you the happiest.

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